I got my BFP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Soooo sorry to hear! I know how you feeling now! Also had MC at 8 weeks!

(((HUGS)))

You must join us on the Pregnancy after D&C thread! Really a LOVELY bunch of ladies who has helped me a lot!!

www.moomie.co.za/forum/4-pregnancy-and-b...?limit=15&start=3030

Hi Tamsyn

Yes, preg went well afterwards but had to be careful. stopped gym and all other strenuous activities.

(DH would not even BD for the remainder of the pregnancy cos too scared to hurt baby or tear stitches so we were practically celibate for about 5 months!)

You will get another BFP soon. I just know it!

I totally get your point about the 12 week mark especially after what happened, but look what happened to me 5 weeks after the 12 week mark!!!

Welcome and congratulations!!

TamsynS - oh that is really terrible. I am so very sorry for you, really!

I think we all have the best intentions of waiting for the 12 week mark, but we are often so excited that we want to wear a red flashing light on our head and run around screaming "I am pregnant, it is me, I am pregnant!"

Shucks, it really is very sad, and no matter of patting your shoulder is going to change that.

I hope you are doing okay.

Hi Elamsmom

Thanks for your message and your understanding.

It was only 6 weeks so like you say "a ball of cells" but you are correct in saying that you already start the bonding process. The doc said that normally at such a young stage it is basically natures way of getting rid of something that wasn't normal ie. abnormal chromosome etc.

So trying to be positive at the moment and am waiting until I get my next BFP. I won't be telling everyone (well you girls yes) next time round until I have reached the 12 week mark because having to go around and tell everyone I miscarried was not nice!

So I take it that you pregnancy turned out healthy in the end?

So sorry Tamsyn!!!

Does the doc have any idea what might have caused the MC?

I can imagine how you must feel. It's only a little ball of cells at that point but you are already attached, only a mom/ mom-to-be can understand.

I bled as well at 17 weeks and when we arrived at the hospital I was told it was an "inevitable MC" and I'd have to get a D&C done after the baby came out. (the casualty doc who saw me 1st was SO unfriendly!she was like "MAM,DO YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT I AM TELLING YOU!? )I was soooooooo sad and shocked and hysterical! Everyone kept saying "you can have another one, as long as u are ok etc etc etc" I kept saying/wailing "But I want THIS one!!!" It's really VERY emotional and I found that ppl didn't really understand. Luckily for me, my gynae was called in, gave me stuff to stop the bleeding and the next morn, he put in Shirodkar sutures (they basically sew the cpening to the cervix shut so baby doesn't come out)

Point is, in those horiffic few hours, I had a really good glimpse of what it feels like to lose your baby so I understand what you must be going through. Will be thinking about you, and praying that your heart may heal asap so u can move onto the business of getting another BFP asap!

Oh Tamsyn I am so,so sorry.
Its one of the saddest things that can happen so give yourself plenty of time to mourn the loss and be kind to yourself right now.