Hello Helpless. (I hope you'll find the strength to change your user name someday).
And welcome to this very south african forum.
There aren't too many support groups on here for kids with disabilities, but there are a few kids and parents around.
My toddler (20months) has congenital heart defects, and through the external networking I am in touch with some support groups for mom's who have a rough time.
Please take a look at
www.facebook.com/MommiesofMiracles its a group for mom's who deal with a lot bigger challenges and offer a wealth of support.
I can only imagine how hard it must be for you to be alone up there far from your family. I certainly hope you have support.
But you are most most welcome to come chat here, and start any topic or join any topic if you feel you can contribute. I have been chatting on this and our previous forum for over 2 years now.