Hi Jay
I'm coping just fine, the older one is 10 years old, @ least she does help with the house chores and holding baby Mbali if I'm busy with somethings, and DH is always assisting me, though I sometimes feel like Mbali is the 1st baby since I forgot how to take care of a new born.
Hlengi sometimes feels like I don't like her coz I'm always holding Mbali, she even wants to sleep in our bedroom since Mbali came.