Hi ladies
Some of you may know that we have tried for a second child without success - I think primarily because of my age. Adoption was something I never really seriously considered except in a a very glib and off-hand type of way. Before I got married I did not really want kids, but used to say if I wake up one morning with a sudden and unexplained urge to have a child I could always adopt.
Things worked out differently and I ended up with a lovely partner and an adorable little boy and I am eternally greatful for both. However, I have been feeling the urge to have another child, originally mostly as a sibling for Ethan, but also, inexplicably, just because... (weird really - for me that is...).
So after the unsuccesful attempts at a second pregancy we deliberately gave up - because quite frankly it was driving me a little insane.
And then, a few weeks ago, at a birthday party someone had a little girl, just over a year and she was the cuttest, most adorable little thing. G, my husband was immediately and completely besotted with her and talked about her for quite a few days afterwards and that, out of the blue, made me think about adoption. Now that is not something that was ever on the cards for us. Prior to getting married G said that if we cannot have kids, it would not really be an option for him, so I never raised it when we could not have a 2nd child. So I have been walking aroung with this idea in my head for a couple of weeks now and finally broached it, very tentatively with him, on Sat evening when we were out for a date. We did not discuss it at length and he was non-commital, but not opposed to it the way he was before we became parents and whilst he did not say yay or nay he mentioned this LG again which gave me the idea that he is not entirely opposed to adopting a LG like that.
At this point I do not want to push him, because I am not convinced about it myself and feel like I need to do some homework before talking to him again.
Then I do have some issues and should probably be honest about them.
1. I would like to adopt a toddler as opposed to a new born - babies are cute, but demmit if I could choose I do not want to go through the whole baby thing again.
2. I will not be able to deal with a child that is in anyway physically or mentally handicapped. This happened to friends of us - they did a private adoption and the baby turned out to have CP. I really will not be able to deal with that - its just me and who I am....
Anyway - so I am putting this out there. I guess the one question that I do have is is there anyone I can contact to ask about process, costs, etc, before I make up my mind and before I even take this up on a more serious note with G.
Thinking about adoption
