Hi Ladies,
Thank you to each and every one of you who has taken the time to send me their well wishes and support. Your kind words and prayers gives me hope.
Antz, thank you for sharing the info you have managed to get from your cousin. Many websites giving information about POP suggests that the size of the baby could be a contributing factor and then other websites disagree. I must say that I have read almost equally as many stories of women with very average or small babies suffering POP too...It is all very confusing. My first baby was 3kg and my second 3.7 kg (a bit on the larger side).
It makes sense that the pregnancy itself puts pressure and strain on the pelvic floor regardless of type of birth used, therefore it does occur in c-sections too but like I said before, it is hard for me not to deduct from the hundreds of stories of POP I have read about when 99% of them was after natural childbirth. I suspect that I had a very mild (stage 1 or 2) prolapse after the birth of my first child via c-section. I think one can live for years with a stage 1 or 2 prolapse (perhaps like your cousin) without having obvious symptoms, but sadly if this is not monitored well it will most likely become Stage 3 or 4 prolapse, from what I have read it seems.
I had symptoms that I know now are signs of POP that was not correctly diagnosed whenever I went to my GP with my sporadic aches and pains.
Some of the symptoms included:
- minor incontinence when sneezing, but it didn't happen every time therefore I disregarded it as serious.
- total incontinence when vomiting and because this only happened when my GERD was giving problems or a tummy bug, it also didn't happen a lot.
- minor incontinence while jumping on the trampoline with my child and also the feeling that my insides were going to fall out of my vagina while jumping.
- IBS with constipation at times.
- Regular urge to pee like when having a bladder infection but when tested no infection was present.
- Painful sex at times, especially the feeling that the bladder was being squashed especially with certain sexual positions. Pain after sex as well at times.
- Unexplained pelvic pain, sometimes directly on the pelvic bone.
- Hip pain that radiates into the pelvis, especially around ovulation.
Clueless, the fact that you know about your aunt raises an important point. I think it is in the interest of women to speak to other female relatives about their post partum recovery in order to determine if you are at risk or if you know you have POP like me to discuss this with sisters, mother, cousins and aunts. I know this is not an easy conversation "around a cup of rooibos tea and some biscuits", but I think it will do more good to start talking about this ladies condition that affects so many, granted most will only discover POP at Menopause.
I totally agree with you that it is hard to find unbiased Pro's and Con's about birth preferences, especially on public forums. I remember when I had to make my choice 6 years ago I was totally lost and I was in so much stress about what would be right choice for me and my baby.
Zaza, thank you for understanding all my ranting. Thank you for spreading the word - I believe this is the first step, get women talking about this and breaking the silence!
Karmie, I am glad I am not the only one who thought they have read a lot about childbirth and who was totally shocked to find out about POP only now. I have come across a few websites mentioning POP as part of the con's list now while I am searching for answers and a better understanding. Perhaps the info was there all a long when I was doing my research, perhaps because I didn't know exactly what POP entailed (and how common it is) that I just kind of "glanced" over it. I guess I spent most of my research on very Pro-natural websites that was unlikely to mention POP and was focusing more on the benefits of natural birth instead of the risks.
Pillpusher, If it is true what I have read on other POP forums, it seems as if doctors are not very forthcoming with info about POP, perhaps because not everyone can agree on the causes etc. It seems as if the whole thing kind of gets swept under the carpet. I would love to hear what your doctor's response was.
Hasie, Thank you so much for giving me the information! I have met with Dr. Lizelle at 5 weeks PP. She was really lovely and as you say passionate and energetic. After much deliberation, my husband and I decided that I won't be able to continue the therapy with her because it is so far for us to drive and I don't have anyone nearby to leave my baby with when I do an hour session with her twice a week for the next 6 months. Unfortunately she charged quite a bit above medical aid rates which we simply can't afford now. It takes an hour to get to her and it was just logistically not viable with breastfeeding schedule. I have now started PT at another recommended Pelvic floor specialist closer to me. The urogynecologist referred me to her. She is doing bio-feedback where a probe is inserted into the vagina and one can measure the strength of a kegel contraction and it also stimulates the pelvic floor/vaginal muscles. It is amazing the see how the pelvic muscles are becoming stronger with each session!