Bedtime/sleep routine - 2 yr old

My LB - 17:30 - dinner, then up to his room at 18:00, play a little bit with me and the dog, then bath, and at 18:45 his dad will take him and show him the moon (even if the moon is gone!) I will put him in his bed then with his last bit of milk for the day, kiss him good night, close the door, put off the light, and walk out....
He will sleep for 12 hours straight then...

It was never like this... after some high-stress sleep training and lots of tears, screaming and crying for 4 nights - he knows now this is the routine...
Funnily enough - some nights back he woke up as he had a massive ear injection.. - I put him in bed with us, but he did not want to sleep in our bed!! he was walking back to his own bed, i covered him, kissed him and hugged him, and he slept further..

Thanks for all the replies!
I am going to take it one step at a time and do it slowly. For now we can still go to our bed and drink bottle and then lights off and fall asleep in our bed then take her to her own bed.
I will start moving her to her own bed soon where we will drink bottle and lights off and sleep.
Once we are in her own bed then we will try leaving her there on her own.
One small step at a time.
Thanks again ladies

Oh yes there were tantrums and tears and kicking and screaming, but you need to decide for yourself whether you want to spend the next 5 or 6 years running between bedrooms, or spend a week being hard and ignoring the tantrum (just as you would during the day) and have a peaceful evening / night time sleep for the rest of your life.

You need to decide for yourself how hardcore you are gonna be and take it from there, and stick to your guns, the slightest bit of softness on your part will be used against you for the rest of the year.
Just with everything baby related, it is up to YOU to train your child according to your household and it's rules and comfort levels.

But Julz is correct, it does help to do a bit of a change in their room, even if only to get new bed linen and make a fuss of it. It also helps to get them out of your bed and into their own beds before you start trying to keep them in their own rooms.

They really are!!

A suggestion to ladies with young children. Unless you are quite okay for them to sleep in your bed until they are ready to move out and many do just decide that the are ready, consider encouraging them to sleep in their own bed. It is just easier to do before they can crawl and walk!

I'm reading this thread just to prepare myself for what's to come and pick up some tips in the meantime.

But I just have to laugh at Claire's post - I can picture the little man standing there and eventually just walking to his room defeated sweet man. Aren't our kids just the most adorable little people ever!!!

There may be a few tears for a day or two but the most important thing is that you stick to the plan! If lo climbs out of bed just take them back and you have to keep on doing it.

May I also suggest that you consider changing the theme in his room to something totally different and cool.

You could explain that his is a big boy with a nice new bed etc and often kids will sleep in their "new" bed happily.

THanks Ladies!

And inbetween all this sleep/bedtime "training" were there no tears, crying, tantrums?

How do you handle that?

How long does it take to "train" them to go to their own bed, stay there and close their eyes and sleep?