Naughty Toddler

My dm also tends to intevere with our discipline methods.. v v frustrating!

Thanks GW - Busy looking at the links!!

Babyshoes,

I can only echo what all the ladies have said.

However, I found it worthwhile to do some reading regarding age appropriate behaviour and how to handle it.

I found that most of our parents (now grandparents to our children) uses the only methods of dicipline known to them (remember, not many books and studies in those days around). If I had not done some research on the topic of parenting, I probably would have done exactly what my parents did to a certain degree.
All they knew was how to scare the living daylights out of a child so that the child will obey (in most cases). It works beautifully if you want to raise a robot who can't think for himself or develop an emotional moral conscience. But there is another way.

If you would like a different approach I would recomend the following books strongly:

www.amazon.com/Between-Parent-Child-Revo...09881/ref=pd_sim_b_2

www.amazon.com/gp/product/0380811960/ref...19M7H6SFQPJFXPCM7MAG

www.amazon.com/Pocket-Parent-Gail-Reichl...2182X/ref=pd_sim_b_7

www.amazon.com/gp/product/0380811960/ref...19M7H6SFQPJFXPCM7MAG

www.amazon.com/Unconditional-Parenting-M...id=1310997354&sr=1-1

Any of these books will change your outlook on parenting as they all share the same belief that to raise an emotionally, self confident, free thinking child you need a different approach from the traditional authoritarian way.

This is a very difficult age, since you have to supervise everything as they can't understand your reason yet. Therefore the parent has to take the reigns in their hands and remove a child from a dangerous situation without dubbing the child as naughty. This is really frustrating and tiring! It gets even worse as the get older.
It's great that your LO is such an explorer, apparently a sign of inteligence!

Best of luck!

ps: I also had to have a talk with my mom asking her nicely to respect the way we choose to "dicipline" our child.

Thanks for all the advise mommies!

I think I am going to log on this evening and let my mom read these comments and suggestions.

Whats the worst she can do? Be really pissed off at me...

Luke also has his own table and chairs. My mom has put it away cos he climbs on it exactly the same way he does on hers.... But I do think I am going to take it out for him to play with again.

And maybe try reward the good behaviour - say ask him to get off the table and if he does reward him - or bribe him even.

- I seriously think I am going to try this approach.

Once again - thanks for your input I really appreciate it and I dont feel so "alone' right now!!

x

As much as I understand your mom's concern for Luke's safety but at the same time I think she is being a little bit unfair.
No mother wants her child to be "naughty" as people put it but at the end of the day, thats how some grow. Surely you would like your Luke to be as obediant as Heinrich but thats not possible at this stage as he is younger than him. Kids are different, you find the passive ones and the 'explorers' (like my son too)

All I wish for you at this stage is that you find ur own place where Luke will be able to be Luke without being spanked for being a child. Don't get me wrong, I know ur mom loves ur son but as I said I think she is being unreasonable by shouting at your for Luke being a child!

My kids and I lived with my parents for 4 years so I understand this totally.

My advise is do what you can to diffuse the situation at all costs!!

Does he have a table of his own? If not maybe get one to put in the kitchen - they are light enough to move around and out the way if need be.

And maybe try reward the good behaviour - say ask him to get off the table and if he does reward him - or bribe him even.

While it may be easy to say your mom is being unreasonable I know what its like to deal with a mom who has had her space invaded - its not easy on both sides.

Your toddler is not naughty. He is exploring.
That is what they do, they do not understand yet what they are doing are dangerous.