1st Born will be 1yr6mnths when new baby arrives

i definately feel your concern.

my 2 boys will differ 16 months - baby due in Aug.

i think we can definately expect a tough adjustment period with older baby were they will be more clingy and needy, and will not sleep properly at night.
i think they will fell insecure about the new baby taking their place, so lots of extra love and cuddles and making older baby feel safe and secure, then all the other things will fall into place.

luckily the first few weeks baby will sleep alot, so there will be time for alone time with 1st born.
but i'm expecting a very busy first 6 months

HI,

I have a 19month gap between my boys.

I only had one instance where oldest hit youngest with the bottle over the head, but that was it. I have to say tho. when they get older they will be best friends, my two now plays together and get into trouble together, they still fight, but thats just normal sibling rivalry.

I dont think you have much to worry about, but maybe involve her with her little brother's care taking, so she doesnt feel left out. maybe also get daddy involved to give her some attention while youre busy with the lo. and shift regulary, so you also get to spend time with her and daddy with baby.

good luck!!

Hi there

There is a 17 month gap between my two girls, so I understand your concern completely

It is not as bad as you fear, but I am not going to sugarcoat it, you will be busy! And there will be days where you feel you can't keep both happy. It is important that you have a good support system, and it seems like you have that box ticked already, which is great

Make special time for your 1st born where you just spend time with her alone, even better is someone else can look after baby for that bit of time in another room so you are not distracted.

My first LG did not want to hold her sister, she just touches her cheeks, head and feet, which for some reason are very interesting to her. You will just have to be careful that she does not clamber over the baby, my LG does not hurt her on purpose, but at that age they climb over everything and can accidentally step on a little arm or leg. So never leave the two alone in the same room.

We also had the baby "buy" our LG a gift, but I am not sure she fully understood the concept, though it does not hurt to try this.

I am lucky in that our second LG is a good sleeper, much better than my older one. The second one is generally easier.

So in summary, you are in for a busy year, but it is not impossible to manage.

Most people don't want to be an only child (I, for one, cannot imagine life without my brother), and a siblling is the best gift you can give your child. They may not always appreciate it now, but they will in time

Hi Mummies

I am a mother of an awesome little girl who will soon have attention shift from her to her little brother due in July. She will be exactly a year and a half at that time. Does anyone have children with similar gaps? How is the transition. How does the little one handle the new arrival.

I have nightmares of my baby girl poking my sons eyes or thinking they are a doll or something.

Also is it as draining as I am imagining? I have a full time nanny who will sleep with my eldest once baby arrives so that might ease the burden. I'm just worried how we'll all cope.