Am I being totally unreasonable ??

Has she been to the doctor? Perhaps take her to doc and get his/her opinion on if she can/can't play? At least then you dont have to feel like the bad guy if doc agrees she can't play.

I just feel really terrible that I am letting her down, but in my heart I know that with this weather and her having a cold already it is not going to be good.

On 18 May my son stopped breathing and had to be resucitated because he caught a common cold. She has been barking like a dog every day and I can see in her eyes that she is not well even if she tells me she is feeling fine.

My daughter has not missed one match or any practice sessions until now - and this is apparently the last match - they keep saying she is their star player so why not take all the games into consideration ??

Then I also ask why was I/she not told a while back that she - they could have told me when they called me yesterday but nothing, and with the comment of "she is our star player" this makes me think well she should only be there so they can win .....

sigh - maybe I am over reacting

I agree that your daughter should not be doing anything excessive that might damage her health or further risking your son's health.

Tick.

I agree that you should feel annoyed that the school is putting pressure on you to allow her to play this game.

Tick.

However .... and here is the but ....

Maybe the school is putting pressure on you to allow her to play because they want her to get her colours and this match is critical in that.

Maybe to qualify she has to play this game and the school knows how devastated she will be if she misses it and does not get her colours.

Maybe the qualifier for colours is quite rigid i.e. play x get y, no discussions or compromise, often these things are like that, or we would all have colours for something.

I think you are fully in your rights to not allow your daughter to play.

However with that comes consequences, and in this case she might not be well enough to play which means she might miss this important game which means she will not be awarded the colours.


I can't imagine they are using this to persecute you - I think they want your daughter to be awarded colours and realise that this match is the defining point to make that happen.

If she is not on the match list she will not qualify, the school is not going to lie and put her on the list if she is not there.

She plays = colours.
She does not play = no colours.

Simple, but really crappy.

butterflies I dont think you are being unreasonable at all! Especially if the flu has gone to her chest it can make her worst playing sport and running around just when she is starting to get better! and your son is a contributing factor - him getting sick could cause death - you should quarantine her till she is better but you have been reasonable and let her go to school

And I find it totally unacceptable that they make you out to be the bad guy to her!!!!!!!!!!!! They of all people should realise the moms have to make tough decisions for the well being of their children...

My daughter has been off school for the last two days as she has had flu and seriously coughing like a dog. She begged to go to school so I said she could go today, but she is not allowed to play netball, but now the teachers have been hounding her to play a match today, so much so that in the last two days I have had 4 phone calls from them.

Each time I have explained that I cannot afford for her to get any sicker than what she is, for her health as well as my son's who is prone to getting really ill at the moment which inevetiably can cause death for him with his syndrome.

They have now again phoned me and now pulling a thing that if she plays today she will get full colours - WTF why cant they give it to her even if she does not play today - surely one match should not be the deciding factor to whether she should get colours or not. So now they have told her this and I feel like a freaking ass and a monster of a mom cause now I feel like I am taking an achievement away from her.

Am I being unreasonable???????