Feeling so exhausted

Zulu, you need to give yourself a break!

Have someone look after your kiddies and go and have your hair and nails done. You will feel so much better about yourself!

Also, does your gym not have childcare facilities? If they do, use them. You will be in the same building with them the whole time.

Also, for the tiredness, try the Vit B injections. Go twice a week for three weeks and then just once a week. You will def. feel the difference!

No Zulu, you are not paranoid or going off your noodle, you are a normal working mom trying to juggle it all ... and unfortunately dropping a few balls along the way.

I can't offer you solutions that work in your world, but I will only indicate stuff that I do to keep me sane (or a bit sane):

The guilt unfortunately has no remedy - there is hardly a day that goes by that I do not feel guilty, but over time I have learnt to lock the screaming voice of guilt into a cupboard and turn up the music so I do not hear her annoying voice.

I must confess trying to do hair, nails, and waxing is just not something I get time to do. I make appointments for waxing at 7am - so again it is not trying to juggle it after hours.

I gave up on the hair a long time ago - and probably get there about every 6 - 7 months at the moments.

Nails - this one I do try to keep, but I get there every 3rd week or so, and it is a hard won hour, and usually takes juggling of giant proportion.

I have also moved running/gym or anything along those lines to 5am slots - it is insane to roll out of bed, but then I can go and do what I need to do, I get home and kids are not even up yet, so I am the have a quick shower and be ready for when the stuff starts ..... I hate the getting up, but if I want to go and do it, it really is probably my least guilt ridden time.

I schedule as little as possible - if I can - between 17h00 and 19h30. As that is when I am sorting kids out.

If I want to go and see a friend or get together for dinner with mates, I get home and sort kids out and then get them into bed bbetween 19h00 and 19h30 (my youngest goes at 19h00 my oldest goes at 19h30) so I tuck them in bed and kiss them good night and then fly out the door.

That way I still do with them what I would normally do.

Sure I arrive to meet friends looking like cr&p because I am rushed, but at least I am there and have made the effort to have some sort of social life - also my kids are in bed and asleep, so I do not feel waves of guilt.

If I have to shop for something I attempt to do it on-line or in my lunch hour (as if I have one) - the days of spending hours trawling shops it long long long over for me.

I rush in grab and run.

Every now and then I get 2 - 4 things that i need to do, and then I schedule them together, and spend a Saturday attending to me, it mine mean hair, buying those denims I need, or buying that present for my mate or what ever, but I plan every now and then where I need 8 hours to do stuff, and then I organise for DH to be available or a baby sitter or what ever to do the things I need to do.

Zulu I know how you feel (and I dont think we a bad mothers)

who's looking after your kids?

I have decided to make time for myself, or else I was getting very moody and depressed.
so every morning, my LG's nanny takes over looking after her. I use this time to go to gym/sleep/have me time. also on weekends when Nanny is working, I use that time to go see friends or salon or anything (without) my baby-girl.

Ive noticed when Im fullfilled as an indidual I am able to be a good mother to my LG, the guilt has dissappeared after I made peace with myself that Im still ME not just a mother

Hi Mommies

Am i taking motherhood way too far, i just can't do anything for myself

Hair
Nails
Visiting friends
Shopping
Gym

I feel vey guilty leaving my kids behind, i think because of this, i'm very agitated, short tempered and FAT.
haven't been to the hair salon for ages, i'm paying monthly for a gym, when i get home they all cling to me and never let me go.

Am i obsessed, paranoid? how do i get rid of this guilt.

I was also deployed to another office, i don't even have time to chat anymore.

Regards
Z