back to work blues

the first few weeks even months are the worst it gets better i promise you, i was lucky coz my retired and her friend referred a really nice lady to us & she has been great with my LO and a bonus is that my mother is always there to monitor my baby. Even with all that i still get worried that he may run out of milk coz i am still bf (express 3 bottles daily) or that i am missing out on his milestones each day gets better just hang in there and enjoy your last days at home coz you have a lot more days ahead for you to stress and panic just spend as much time with lo as possible coz you only get maternity leave once then you will only be home on weekends & holidays

I cried every single day & couldn't get to her fast enough in the afternoon.

Ditto! I don't even want to know how many traffic fines I have collected for speeding over the last few weeks

Hi emmas.......... I know exactly how you feel. I had 5 months of maternity leave & in my 3rd month I realised that I need to start looking for a nanny as there was no way I was sending my daughter to a creche will so small.

I managed to find a lady that I felt reasonably comfortable with & she started while I still had about a month of leave left but during that time I wasn't comfortable with her anymore & felt like she wasn't capable of looking after my daughter & I also didn't wanna go back to work. So, what did I do.......... I had to return the Monday in March & I gave 24 hours notice the friday he he he. I was lucky enough to be able to stay with her a little longer as my husband started a new job where he got a car allowance. So, we sold our car & he bought himself a new one.


I was able to stay at home with my daughter until she was 19 month old!!!!!!!!!! It didn't make it any easier when I finally had to start looking for another job & a creche It was absolute hell the first few weeks. I cried every single day & couldn't get to her fast enough in the afternoon.

I don't have advice cause times are tough & not everybody can afford to stay at home. Maybe speak to your dr about prescribing a relaxer or something.

Good luck!!!

Hi emmas,

I feel your pain and I'm sure many of the Moomies do. It sucks badly having to leave your LO with a stranger - unfortunately most of us don't have any other choice.

A few of us have been chatting about it on this thread
www.moomie.co.za/forum/5-your-baby/14974...turning-to-work.html

Feel free to join in and moan away

I've been back at work since mid-January and the first weeks were hell. By now my LG is in a good routine with her nanny and I'm glad to know she is in safe hands, which makes it a bit easier to focus at work. I was probably running at 30% for the first few weeks back at the office, it's tough.

Luckily we have Moomie to chat about these things with other mommies in a similar position. Sometimes it helps to just vent away

Can other mommies tell me how they coped with returning to work and putting baba into the care of someone you hardly know? I am finding it so stressful and even though i have a month left of maternity leave, i am feeling so blue and despondent. I have selected a lovely lady with a small daycare centre but I still feel guilty and heartsore that I am not available to raise my own child and experience all her little baby gestures and smiles everyday do i need to take something to get me through this? Does it get easier?