Baby hates milk

Im so sorry u havin such a hard time with ur baby
The ladies have given good advice, hang in there, u are in my thoughts

This is a really good read, and maybe even worth your while

www.annique.co.za/About_Rooibosstory.html

Use it dont use it.

Best of luck, and try and relax as Jems suggested, i know it cant be easy!!! Also, have you considered getting someone to help you out during the day???

Gosh Meags - how stressful

Kiara did a similar thing but she was 9 months so we could drop the milk bottle - she just didn't want it. She was lactose intolerant so we had her on a soya formula which she just started eventually refusing.

Is DH at home? Is it possible to get him to try and feed baby for some of the feeds? Baby feels your tension and so is probably also tense to begin with so maybe if your DH tries he may be a little more relaxed.

One of the ladies mentioned sticking to one formula and I think thats the best option. Changing formula in a baby with no issues can cause problems so if you have changed so many times it may be that alone that is causing the problem. So stick with what the Dr has prescribed now.

You can also use rescue on baby now. Maybe before a feed give him a few drops so he is calm before the feed. You can also rub it on his wrists.

Thinking of you and hoping it improves asap.

I didn't dare to write what Jems wrote but had the same thoughts I think you mentioned somewhere that you have been diagnosed with PND. Are you on meds for that? Or maybe try some yoga or breathing techniques. These LOs are so smart, they literally mirror our emotions.

His weight gain is still ok I'd say, it's normal for them to gain less as they get older. Like Jems said, follow his cues and you'll both be more relaxed very soon!

(((HUGS))) again

Meags - I have been reading your posts and haven't been commenting but if I can just offer one word of advice - RELAX a bit please...

Babies/children are so very perceptive and feed off and pick up our emotions and how we feel.

Stressed mom = stressed baby

I know it's hard but try to relax, don't feed him if he is upset or crying. Definitely don't force feed him. This is definitely going to make the reflux worse. Go for a walk and then you both can chill and then once you are both relaxed give his bottle while lovingly staring at his eyes, don't think about about many ml's and how many hours since the last feed, or anything else, just take that time to think happy healthy thoughts and smile and talk and cuddle.

Babies don't have watches so don't know whether it has been 3 or 4 hours since last feed. Instead of clock watching wait for his signals to let you know when he is hungry. Then give him his bottle. He is old enough now and he is still putting on weight so I would give that a try.

All the best Meags.

This time goes so quickly and before you know he is going to be running around stuffing his face with flings. Enjoy this precious time... x

Aaah Meags, my heart goes out to you. Just reading about what you are going through makes me sad!

You must just persevere on the meds, with Nathan is took about 2 weeks before the reflux meds kicked in. He was also on a low dosage and having a gaviscon-like liquid. I almost gave in because I didnt think it was working. We then up'ed the dosage, and then it kicked in. I still think he has alot of symtons, but overall he is more comforable. I dont think there is a quick fix.

He is so much better, but I am scared to wean him off. With us, Nathan was so uninterested in food, and so many people said solids will help the reflux. At one stage I thought my child will never eat. Then suddenly he started enjoying his food. What I am saying, is its a tough road, but it does get easier. In fact, I have realised that he does not like cereal, so I am skipping cereal and going onto fruit and veges.

I know my paed here says the allergy tests (even just blood count for iron), is pointless and unreliable in a baby. But if you can get it done in France, it might help you know which way forward. THere is no wrong or right!

Looking forward to catching up with you in July! Hang in there! Lots of hugs xxx

hi girls

well things seem to be going from bad to worse?!
saw the specialist and have increased his meds X3
and added gaviscon type stuff which when I give it makes him vomit a lot of his milk afterwards and for up to 2 hours after?!?!

today was the first day of increasing the meds and he seemed at his worst crying hysterically with each feed....he did say it will take 7-10 days but wow...its exhausting.

so after 7-10 days if there is no improvement he gave me a specialised formula that contains no dairy or soy. he says if Matt has a dairy allergy that its likely he will develop a soy allergy too and that doing allergy tests is unreliable. (well we are going to france on friday and will be doing the allergy tests ourselves there....)

so yes...thats where we stand.

paed has ruled out any illnesses, sore throats, ear infections etc etc etc. he sits listening to his heart for around 5 minutes each time I'm there...he really cant find ANYTHING wrong with Matt at all.

He also wont take smaller amounts more frequently. he will only drink every 4 hours. 3 on the very odd occassion. so although it seems a good idea to give him the 60ml every 2 hours or so...he just wont accept it.
his weight gain has dropped. he was gaining around 300g per week and now he's gaining 115g per week. I guess this number will keep dropping the less milk he takes