Triplet on the floor????

Meags - I think it is good that you brought this subject up.

I think there are many moms - possibly even on this forum, who maybe have struggled to bond with thier babies, and this might have resonated with them.

The movies show us this exhausted but jubilant mom who grabs her new born baby and hold it to her breast with this look of ecstacy. The reality is that many moms "struggle" with this initial bond - it is not immediate in all of us.

I would imagine that if you have gone through a difficult pregnancy/birth or you and your partner have some latent issues, that this might add some more strain to the bonding process.

I try not to judge the parents, as I am not there to see the situation, but at the same time I do empathise, that maybe bonding is not immediate, and you know that is also okay.

We all move at our own pace, it does not mean we do not love our children, or love them less, but that "connection" might take longer for some of us.

I am glad the mom has support though.

Don't be too hard on yourself Meags - you were just thinking about the the lg...

Recently learned that this topic has offended some mom's. I'm really sorry for that! I won't post on this topic anymore

it's not the one from the hospital. I know that one It's her 14 weeks one

Shame maybe we should give the parents a break. They can't defend themselves here. Seems a bit unfair on them. Just a thought.

Meags the vaccination that they receive in hospital does form an abscess at around 3 months. Sometimes it bursts (my LG's one did). Maybe she was told that in hospital and that's why she's not worried.

Okay meags now I understand.

Some mommies (like me) don't stress about that much. I have the 3 day rule. If it isn't gone within 3 days then off to doc unless my kid is in obvious pain.

Other parents have their kids at the doc the same day and that is fine. I did too when Dylan was younger and then you relax a bit.

I went through hell and back in my first few months with my newborn. I would have judged me harshly before having kids, but once you have them you tend to be a bit more forgiving when it comes to parenting styles.