Triplet on the floor????

Twintastic - as some of the other moms have said, maybe her coping mechanisms are not running on full throttle.

We really do not know the situation or what they have been through, or are going through. Onviously we are all reacting to what is being said, and we do not know the context.

I find motherhood very challenging - and what comes naturally to others, really does not come naturally to me at all.

I would not be able to have children if I could not afford some kind of help - like a nanny or the like. I would seriously be on meds and some psyciatric day patient programme.

I really cannot cope by myself - kids scare the bejesus out of me, and I find my anxiety climbs and an inability to make simple decisions without getting very stressed difficult to cope with.

Mommyhood is tricky for some of us, we often have baggage that we carry with us into this thing.

It does not mean we do not want to be mommies, or love our children less, or that we are not quite good at it, it just take a lot more emotional energy to get through the day.

totally understand your opinions! Maybe its just because I loooove being a mom and would love to have had more children that I'm feeling the way I do. Not that I'm saying other woman doesnt love being a mommy! I think you get some woman (like me) who are just cut out to be the 'perfect' mother and house wive! Well, at least trying! I have my tough days but I've learned to cope with all the stress that comes with motherhood and I put all the negative back into positive things and feelings!!!

I will defnetly keep the triplet mommy and her family in my thoughts and prayers and pray that God will give her the necessary strength to cope with 3 babies!

It's hard twintastic because you think that is the way every parent should feel and act but in reality it isn't so. If a mom has pnd for eg she could sit there and watch her child fall off a couch and really not be able to physically or mentally react.

My therapist has told me a dreadful story about professional parents in such a situation. Triple the number of kids and it could be a huge problem.

If she has triplets was she on infertility treatment? Many women who struggle to have children struggle to form a bond with their kids.

twintastic, people have different thresholds when it comes to being able to cope, so it is very difficult to judge according to your own circumstances.

I admire your stregnth like you would not believe. I sometimes struggled when there was only Brandon, I had moments when I wished I could just head for the hills and leave the tyke in someone else's care, so i can not imagine having 2, nevermind 3 babies at the same time.

I agree that yes she has help 24/7, but her coping mechanisms may not be as strong as other peoples.
It may not be neglect that made her leave the baby on the couch - it may just be as simple as not knowing better

Okay I just want to say something and I know some of you might judge me on this but I have twins and my husband and I raised them without a nanny! Most of the time he had to attend to our older daughter and during the day I watched the twins all by myself! Never ever had I left my babies in a dangerous situation (intentional or not or from the lack of sleep). Both babies got fed together, bathed together, wrapped up warm enough and alway together.

I'm NOT judging but this lady has a domestic during the day, a night nanny and then meags from 4-7 so she has help 24/7. I would have thought someone with that much help would cope much better and be able to care for all 3 the same.

You say the other 2 are hands on babies - it may just be that the mother is unable to look after the more "laid back" one, as the other 2 are so demanding.

There are so many ways of looking at a situation like this, from neglect, to parents sleep deprevation (even if there is a night nurse, the parents must still spend a fair amount of time with the LO's during the night) to not knowing how to deal with a baby. We cannot say which is true unless you are there 24/7 to see what things are like during the 21 hours you are not there.

Both my boys were tiny (under 3kg's) as babies and I was terrified of them, so I might also have come across as a bit cold. I am also not really ab baby person, I really prefer them now that the personalities are coming thru and I can interact with them.

But if you are really concerned you need to voice your concerns to the correct people.

I dont think she intentionally left the baby in a dangerous situation. I think she just really didnt think the baby was able to wriggle down to danger and I think she may think twice before doing it again (I hope...)

I try to cuddle the small one as much as possible but the other 2 love to be in hands, so it's not always possible.

I cant say anything to her...each mom has their own parenting style and just because I believe in one style doesnt mean she has to believe in it too