July 2009 Moms

i am going to be very honest with you. no you are not wrong, i wouldve reacted the same as you did. and yes you may tell him what to do and when to do what cause the 2 of you are in a relationship and have children together and thank God you are not his mother!!!
do not tell me you are 5 minutes away when you are not and do not rub YOUR kids off on someone else when the one and only time i have ever asked you to look after them. (oops im going off) but im taking it from my point now)
you get someone else to watch them, so you can go galavanting...
justine my friend, you need to take a step back and stop argueing, search deep in your heart and decide is this the 1st time, then is this how you want to spend the rest of your life, then what is the best step for your children and for yourself.
he should not speak to you like that and you get the house and the car and money cause you are the mom and you have the kiddies. gosh, men are soooooooooooooo stuuuuupid most times you know!

Charlene, Thanks for that. I dont really talk about my personal problems but maybe you can tell me if I have over reacted. What had happened is, I was at work yesterday and he was meant to watch my kids. I got a call from my sister asking where he was as she came to my house and he asked her to watch the boys quickly, he need to do something. Him and her BF went off and took forever. I called him and he said he was 5 minutes away from the house. She called me and asked if I got hold of them cause she called and they said tehy were in Bronkhorstspruit which a VERY far from us. Maybe an hours drive, they went to visit friends. First of all, he left my children with my sister when he was supposed to watch them and he lied about where he was. His excuse, he knew I would of been upset about it and Im not his mother so I dont need to tell him what to do and he doesnt need to explain everything he does to me. I just blew it. I didnt go home after work, went and watched a movie by myself and cried my eyes out. When I got home, he had such an attitude with me saying I went to far by not coming home. He told me he doesnt feel the same anymore and I was like nor do I and I decided its over. We have been fighting the whole day about the cars and money and who gets what etc
I feel so stuck cause I dont want to take the boys away from their dad but I cant accept what he did. Am I wrong?

Justine..sorry to hear that you are having relationship troubles... I also hate lies..Hope you find the solution that works for you and your kids.

Adele I cant see your pics from work but will see if I can log on from home tonight...

Deja..sorry that you are feeling down about not being able to stay home with Nienke... is it not possible that you can work reduced hours if staying at home is not an option? I know our company allows us to work reduced hours at reduced pay?

Anyway half hour left before I go fetch my nunu so let me get some work done..

Chat later

Have a fab evening ladies

pat: i emailed you early and sms'd you for banking details, but your not replying
please get back to me!!!!!!! now i will have to do it 2mrw morning
xxx

that is aweful yes!!! i have always said it doesnt matter what happened but 2 things, a lie and then lieing about the lie even worse and cheating, i wont take that. and i cannot forgive, i hold gridges for like ever!!!

i do pray that you sort this out and only you will know which course and path to take. we are all standing by you, you do know that, and if ever you need a shoulder or a ear, call me, unless im fighting some infection here and i cant answer i will be there for you
(better, come to cpt and come visit, i have loads of coffee and toys)

xxx

Hi Girls,

I just spoke to Binks.. I have transferred R800.00 in for her now and will do the balance as everyone pays...

She is very excited and is going to fetch DH now to go for her scan!

You girls are awesome!

Charlene, there are many things I can tolerate, but if you lie to me, I wont accept it and if you find nothing wrong with telling me a lie, something is seriously wrong. He is the dad of both my children. We have been together for 8 years, Since I was in Standard 8.