Your opinion please Ladies

Oh goodness!

I could have made this post but replaced Neil with my MIL and the ears with formula.

I have stopped talking to her cos I WILL be rude :-p

Good luck - I think both going to the app is a great idea!

Thanks Ann

I insisted on a compromise. I have booked Dylan in for a second consult with another ENT (Neil's choice - different hospital group so no conflict) and I have made him promise that if this ENT says the same thing that both our paed and ENT have said then Dylan must have the op. I think he agreed although he is a Gemini and what he thinks now may change again.

Thanks Lonie. This helps alot. I think the thing that worries me is to think he isn't breathing properly at night.

Good luck for tomorrow. I think you have made the right decision.x

Hi Julz, I was exactly in the same boat as you with Tristan.

He has had 10 ear infections, an infection every month since he was born, many sleepless nights and countless amounts of antibiotics. My GP just kept on prescribing and I was really not happy so I took him to our Paed who referred him to the ENT straight away. The ENT suggested Grommets and the removal of his Adenoids. I was at first hesitant as he wasnt even a year old and already going in for an op. My hubby and I discussed it, weighed up the pro's and con's and decided to book him for the procedure.

He went in for it three weeks ago and damn am I upset I didnt take him earlier! My child has changed from an unhappy, constantly sick, picky eater and restless child to a smiling, healthy and a settled sleeper. Sleeping from 19h00 to 07h00 and not tossing and turning.

Goodluck to you and Dylan, I hope he gets sorted out soon.xx

Yep, you know what they say..mommy knows best..I suppose we are also the ones sitting with them when they are sick, feeling their pain, taking them to the Dr, while waiting there for hours..
Amber is going in for tearduct tomorrow, and hubby was also not pro this operation..every time her eye would be swollen I would point it out in BOLD..and eventually got my way.. Now I am so stressing about this op tomorrow, and hope all goes well, otherwise I will NEVER hear the end..
Have you taken Dylan for hearing test? Maybe that will also ease your mind or give you some answers..
Amber had all the fluid behind her ears, so we had to go the grommet route, and also speech problems with her not hearing properly before the grommets. We are very anti Dr, and antibiotics, so always try other options first..her ear problem was picked up during a Scio session..
She slept badly before the grommets, and also thought that she will sleep better after..but still sleeping bad..

We went for hearing test this week, and all is 100%..

Thanks so much ladies. x

Julz a second opinion is not a bad thing, but I get that you are irritated since it's you - and it's usually us moms - who is always doing the doc shlep and probably loads of reading and research otherwise, only to finally have your decision questioned. As if you don't know when there is something wrong with your child, are making a decision for surgery lightly, and are just going along with what the doc is telling you.

I think you're on the right track allowing Neil to take Dylan for the second opinion so that he can hear directly from the doc about what's going on. And it's a good thing that he is concerned enough about his son to do this.

In the end you both love your LB and want the best for him and the two of you working this out together - even if you're coming at it from opposite sides - should lead to a good solution for Dylan. I know that I'm not always happy having my decisions and choices for my LB questioned by his father (or anyone else for that matter!), but if I think about it, there is often something else to consider. And even if I end up sticking to my decision, this questioning and consideration of the opposite side will reinforce that choice (ie I was right all along and now I'm even more right )