Oct/Nov 2008 mommies!

ladies dont have time to catch up so just posting update want to do unisa quick before lea's home time but will read as usual while putting her to bed

ladies so i went for 34 wk scan and not good as boeta is 1stly still breach(not problem yet but lea was uipside down from 30 wks) but his head is growing and is one week ahead but his body is 2 wks behind, which mean he isnt fattinig up like suppose too

so anyway nothing i can do really just maybe up on nutrition of food and re-asses at 36 wks by then my gynae is going on honeymoon in anyway so will get final plan then - it might mean though placenta not doing its job - but she says it is at the moment so not too worry yet

I have gained 11.5kg's by now - so only 1.5 over last 4 wks glad that is slowing down

but ya if he doesnt gain weight the I am looking at earlier take out in any way - and most probably c-sec - soooooooooo grrrrrrr and hoping he catch up from now to 36 wks

Lisha I agree with you. If you are in a great relationship where you can speak openly with respect then I doubt either party would resort to infidelity but so many men can't talk openly.

I was also chatting to my therapist about sex etc and she also said that so often a couple come to her after he has an affair and it turns out she doesn't meet his needs and really what does she expect. Men are physical beings (as are many women) and they will look elsewhere if they need to.

Julz okay I get that is your opinion but I feel completely the opposite, lol maybe a bit naive but I do feel marriage means forever ... don't get me wrong if dh cheats on me I would leave him without a doubt or even a second thought.

And with regards to what Nicole said, I completely agree that if people feel they cannot be with someone anymore they shouldn't stay together and end up in affairs cos that would really kill the other one's spirit.

Julz you right communication is sooo important, as you never know you could also fix the problem. Df and I are both very verbal and say what we want to say which works out for us as we always know if there is a problem and if someone is bugging the other lol

Nicole you guys are great. Communication is so important. Neil and I are the same. We can be open and honest and have had tough times but we worked through them before it got to cruch time.

Julz df and I said to each other from the beginning that if one of us were unhappy/not satifisfied that we would tell each other before having an affair as sometimes having an affair could really destroy a persons dignity/self esteem. I would hope that we would remain together, however things change so drastically sometimes and with change sometimes goes love. So we cant always keep to what we initially wanted...it is sad

Lisha it is sad but I really don't believe that we as humans are meant to be together forever. I am sure some don't stray, but I really don't have those unrealistic (sorry just my feeling) expectations on my partner. That doesn't mean I would stay with him were he to have an affair, but I could never say that I would never have on either. (right now I love him dearly and am really content so it wouldn't cross my mind.