Oct/Nov 2008 mommies!

Julz- did you see Claire C is now over 13w pregnant? She's in the may/june 2011 mommies group! wow i couldn't believe it!

Thanks for your support ladies, yes i think what bothers me the most is that people presume Elwyn WON'T pay for it all and i must say he is actually completely the opposite and is really a wonderful helpful husband and father as you all know.

I also don't like the idea of having someone in my house under my feet the whole time, if i was out at work then maybe it wouldn't bother me but i like my private space.

Vix i agree with your argument, she really did it in the wrong manner!! How other families do things have nothing to do with them!! I can just imagine how much it must of irratated you!! The rib pain sounds so freaking sore!! I really hope these weeks fly past for you!

Ally re: your kids being shy, K has been in creche for exactly a year this month and he IS STILL shy when we around new people or even family members we havent seen for maybe 2/3 months. He hates a house full of people so really dont think it makes a difference. People are really so full of Bullsh&t at times!

Vix I could barely breath in and out with the rib pain. shame i wish I had a magic wand for you to use.

Oh and yes there are very spoiled women. I used to get annoyed when people would say get a maid etc. I worry about the security aspects too. I have one now and it does help,but within 10 minutes of dylan being home the house looks the way it did before she arrived so not so sure the money is well spent.

I just couldn't get round to doing everything at home which was causing much stress. I couldn't organise the house as the only time I had was spent cleaning so I never caught up with other chores like windows etc. Speaking of which let me get back to work!

Nicole, yes it's that same guy.

Vix, you know, South Africans are incredibly spoiled when it comes to domestic help and nannies etc. So many people are always asking me why the kids aren't in cresche etc. and really, it's none of their farking business. Yes, I can't afford to spend R4000 a month right now in cresche but I also choose not to put my children in cresche until they are at least 2 1/2 / 3. It's my choice. I only went to school when I was 3/4 and that's just the way I was raised. I don't judge people for putting their kids in school young so why do they judge me for NOT doing it? Yes my kids are shy the first 15 minutes of seeing new people but don't tell me just because other kids are in school they're not. I get so irked by people who have opinions and their opinions are 'right'.


I wouldn't pay too much attention to it, I know it's hard coz they attacked E but ignore them!!

Simone- almost forgot again, i picked up the parcel Ally sent through, thanks so much for the pressies! Can't wait to dress the boys up in their matching outfits! And thanks for the vests! you're a star!

Morning ladies,

Simone- wow! well done on the weight loss, I'm not surprised you feel on top of the world! You deserve every god feeling that comes your way! And keep on talking about it you're inspiring so many!

Ally- thanks for filling me in on the guy, we don't have DSTV so i don't see any of those cooking programmes etc hence the blankness of who he was LOL

Julz- bless Dylan last night these kids sometimes have their own agenda hey! I think the short torso is the cause of my pain and suffering too, i was fine with C until 36-37w but obviously with 2 babies I'm about the same size as that already, in fact i can feel the tummy is 'fuller' like my body just won't grow anymore and they are using internal space now. It's getting tough i must say and i too feel like i could cry most of the day. I woke at 7am feeling quite good but by 9 the bruised feeling started and now the back and ribs are actually sore already, these next few weeks are going to be long.

Mandy- Cam's pics are too cute! I'm using a regular maternity belt around the bottom of my tummy to try and aleviate some of the 'pull' on my abdomen but the pain that is the worst is basically from all the stomach's organs laying now up in my ribcage. There isn't really much that can be done, they say laying down helps but for me not quite enough because my belly pulls the one side so sore so it's just going to be a case of grin and bare it for another 7 weeks or as long as possible.

I am looking forward to having my body back that's for sure!

PFairy- Mia is gorgeous! Sorry about your grandfather, it must be so hard, i must say i lost mine when i was still small so the memories are vague. Can't think how it will feel when the grans pass on. I hope DH gets a fantastic job offer out of all these talks! Nice to pick and choose hey?


o.k so the thing i was complaining about on FB is basically this, we had a guy from DH's work over with his wife and kids for a braai and she overhears me telling my mum how sore i have been with the rib pain. She proceeds to climb into my DH about how we NEED a domestic and NEED someone to care for C full time because it's unfair how he makes me do everything when I'm pregnant with twins.

I don't have a domestic because i can't afford one especially now that i can no longer work, i can't afford a creche or Nanny for C because DH's salary just covers the bills and now we have 2 more babies on the way. So as much as it is going to be hard work as long as i am not able to earn money we really just cannot afford any domestic help or childcare.

I get really Pi$$ed at people who act like a woman cannot survive without help. If i was still in the UK i wouldn't have domestic help even if i was a working mum never mind SAHM. So for me i graciously suck up the work and try not to make a huge thing of it. I have never once complained that i cannot cope with my chores of mommy or housewife so for this woman to climb into DH and treat him like a villain was so cruel and unfair. Not once do other people consider the monetary side of taking on staff.

Especially once the twins are here we will have 2 more children to pay medical aid for, 2 more babies in nappies etc so even less so will we be able to afford help.

Anyways that's my rant over, i just wish people would remember I'm not on paid maternity leave, i have no job therefore no income so i have no choice but to do it myself and i don't even complain about it, it is what it is.

Julz that toothpaste sounds awesome!!!