Nicole, I dont see an email in my personal messages so here goes..
The grommets and the tonsils were both positive things for us. We had to have the two ops separately and both went fabulously. What you should know is on the day of the op, one of the hardest parts for us is waiting for your turn. basically they do the youngest baby first and to the oldest, so for cams adenoids and tonsils recently we only had the op at about 11 and had to be there from 6am..
For the grommets it tiny little plastic rings that they place into the ear so its an easier op than the tonsils, the tonsil removal is obviously removing a part from the child - but apparently the tonsils are one of a ring of 7 lymph tissues so when they remove them they do leave others in.
We were so lucky that cameron did not actually show signs of pain or discomfort after either op, in fact is was harder to keep him calm and not let him jump and and down etc while recovering..
IN both instances for us, cameron was sick less after the ops, so for the ears and the throat, he seems better off and I would do it again if i had to..
anyway ask any specific questions if you need to as I could go on and on, or if you want to call me that might be better for us to talk it through.. i will pm my cell to you tomorrow
sorry i cant catch up as dh needs the laptop, but kisses to you all my friends