PAMPERS JULY 2010

Morning guys, All this talk of tearing really does scare me.I really am keen on having a natural birth but this tearing business does scare me.A great aunt of mine was telling me about birthing during their time,she is in her 70s.She has 14 kids and they used to give birth at home,no epidural, no c-section nothing, so she says that with the one son who was really big (obviously no scales during those times) and she says she tore so bad, all way to the rectum and there was no access to a hospital for them in those days, she had to heal on her own!! No painkiller, no stitch, no nothing...and she says "it" never was the same again.

vicky, i also am in the same boat but my company doesnt pay anything! so its just UIF for me.
i am hoping my last day of work being the 9th july and then will be back in Jan, i dont have any annual leave either well i will have 10days by then but preferbally wanna get paid out for that.

wow u did have big babies hey! i have never had a epidural and very scared to even google about it HAHA. chloe was 3.38kg's so i am hoping for the same weight!

well we spoke about my episotimy i can never spell or pronounce that damn word LOL and she said that its not necessary that i will tear again but she does prefer to cut if the need be as she doesnt like to do that but she will cut instead of letting me tear cos she said the last thing we want is to tear all the way to the rectum!

thank you everyone, i just needed to get some other ladies views on my situation. i love my husband dearly i just feel taken advantage of sometimes.(most times).

jo c- thank you for the advise i will try that.. but i mean its like you say... cant they see that the house needs to vacuumed or dishes washed i mean are they totally blind.last year april i was in hospital very sick for a week with encaphylitus- and i think he got the feeling of everything i have to do in one day.. he told me the one day that he owed me a big thank you.. but it neva actually happened. i sometimes just feel that if i wasnt there who would do the things that needs to be done.we are married 5 years next year and i can say we ve been through our ups and downs.. but i still love him very much.
(these buggers they know we will just shut up and accept the situation.. you know what they say cant live with them cant bare to live without them) but damm they really make it hard.

ive come down with flu. by 4pm yesterday.. everything was aching.. and you could actually see i wasnt well in my eyes they were sort of tearing and red..(something like allergies but i dont suffer with allergies) anyways i was so shocked when he stopped the car at the pharmacy and insisted we go get something.. eventually just got told panado and sleep.. i decided to get some calcivita as well. got into bed early after a hot shower and slept.. luckilly my daughter slept through only came to me to cuddle up at about 6am this morning. so i got a good nights sleep. so im feeling a bit better.

ashbabe- thanks for the support. wow congrats 1.1kgs is a good weight. i cant wait to see my baby next week friday.. allthough i will only be 26 going on 27 weeks. so im not sure what sort of weight to expect.. i carried big babies with last two pregnancies.. corbin was 4.25 kgs when he was born. so i think that this one gonna be big , kayleigh was 3.12 but she was born at 37 weeks so i think she wouldve been over 4kgs aswell if left to full term. so happy you gonna have the natural birth you were looking for.. epidural..................... mmm , thats what im petrified about... nothing else.
naomicee-thanks for the support and advise i appreciate it.. unfortunately havent really made much friends this side all of my friends are in durbs but will see what i can do... yeah right --- ive told my husband many a time id love to see him go through pregnancy or a period for that mater they think being a women is so easy.. hah ha ha ... i dont think theyd survive one day.

i dont know what to do with regards to maternity leave. i originally thought i would be having baby in august so assumed i could take like a week or two befor and then 3.5 to 4 months after and that would take me up to december where i could then take my annual leave..and go back to work in jan.. but i am thinking this baby is gonna be ready on the 20th of july and the gynae will do the c sec. so i will have to take off prob begin of july. which means i will have to take 5 months maternity.. which is fine.. our company will pay 1/3 of your salary for 6 months but the prob is the 5 th month i will not be able to claim for as you can only claim for 4 months( am i right about this????)


well ladies i must go.. will visit again later...... have a great day...thank you again..

morning ladies

Vicky, i so hear what u going through and i really do feel for you. my hubby is the same, he has NEVER and i mean NEVER cooked a meal for me or chloe not even when she was a baby did he boil squash!!!
he also doesnt do anything around the house and help when it comes to chloe but i got to teh point when i just say ok, let my day begin as i have to do everything!
i really feel for u and with us being all sensative at the moment, i feel like i can also just pack it in oh dear ladies... this isnt good, we sure do need idea's that we can get these men into gears i mean really.
it got to teh point a while ago that i asked my husband if he knew how to wipe his own ass or does he need me to come show him, ever since that comment he has been a bit better!!

so i went to the gyne yesterady and baby is doing all great, he weighs 1.1kgs and needless to say all my faith is restored with my gyne
i will be having natural again OMG!! but with epidural at least.

well i am freezing today and so cant wait for the weekend i now need to sort out my linen its so untidy and over flowing in chloe's cupboard..

Hope u ladies all have a great day

Agh no man Vicky, till the day men push babies through their penises, I don't think they'll ever get it.You get tired of talking you know.

You need as much help as you can get right now, and you should also give yourself time out!! It's all too much,give him a dose of his own medicine, leave him with the kids on Saturday and go visit a friend and just get there and ask for the guestroom and sleep,leave all the cleaning up and looking after the kids to him for a few hours, I mean with the vericose veins and everything you do need time out!!

O vicky girl....
2 things;
firstly I am so with you in many ways. Hubby was joking with another daddy-to-be on Saturday night about the lack of sex life, which had me in tears on Sunday... I mean how dare he... firstly hes actually the one thats not really keen, then even if he was I don't know where I would find the energy to even fake it, cos I am also exhausted most of the time, I don't complain often, but I have aches and pains and wonder what I was thinking when I agreed to do this again. If I do complain then he "out aches me" if my feet are sore, his are extemely sore. If my back is achy, his back is off. If I don't haved anything to wear, then he can't remember when last he bought himself clothes. I just don't get it. and I don't understand why it is so difficult to rather say "shame babe" instead of "i am ....." or "mine is ...." so on Sunday when I was in tears about the comments I told him that I don't know when it became ok to make me out to be "a wife that can't meet his needs?!" then monday he manages to drop in conversation that i have been very sensitive lately?!? Like its my fault hes insensitive?!?!? But I have been wondering if I am just hormonal and extra sensitive, or if my hubby has over night become an uncaring, inattentive "some of a beach"

secondly - tell him what you need from him to support you. This is a key thing that we have learnt in counselling. (rich coming from me based on the above scenario - but always easier when its not yourself hey) I can't be upset with him for not meeting a need, if I did not express the need. So sometimes I will give him options and say "are you gonna bath Ethan or pack his lunch and bag for tomorrow?" so that he can realise while I am doing one thing there are others to be done as well.... or "do you wanna wash dishes or sweep the floor" apparently men don't think of all the needs of the family like we do. It really, really bugged me in the beginning I was so irratated I was like "if you can't see that the dishes need washing?" or "if you can't think that Ethan needs a lunch packed for school" I was really against stating the obvious!! but I gritted through the begining and now it works well. He feels like part of the family and actually enjoys contributing and I don't have to do everything by myself sighing and cursing him under my breath.... Good luck!!

Hi guys,

Decided to be a little naughty today, was out for the better half of the day, left the office at around 11:00 in the morning.Just got back now, tired of people runnning personal errands during work hours leaving me with the phones, which is not part of my job! I went to see the Sunninghill hospital maternity ward,I've already booked in at Netcare, and also checked out genesis clinic over the weekend,looks like a guest house, nothing "hospitally" about it.

With regards to weight,I have decided to start stressing about it after baby arrives, its pointless worrying about it now cos there really is nothing I can do about it now! As for those mean collegues, I always tell them were to get off, I mean if you think I'm fat, at least I have an excuse for being fat ( its usually the fatties that talk too much), If you think I'm ugly, and my nose is big or my pigmentation bother you, at least I have an excuse for all these things, and to top it all off ,I have manners,which Iis something that can't be said about then would never make a comment like that to a preggie