January 2010 mommies

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Aribeth, yes I did think you were out of hand yesterday. Seems like every time you come here is to dish out criticism of everyone else like you know it all. Honestly I don't think everything you do is correct but who am I to judge I just keep my mouth shut about it!

I think M2B knows very well how to deal with her own situation and she doesn't need you to judge her.

sjoe aribeth some deep shit jong.

I know it takes a strong women to do what you doing. My mom did it, She raise me and my sis alone. Put us through school and university. So ja it can be done. I take my hat off to you. But I guess its everyone to its own.

Angel – I tried number 4 food because the flavours of the others looked yuk. I hate purity. I wont give my kids anything I wont eat myself. Have you tasted purity, like the broccoli and cheese pie, yuk deluxe. The number 4 purity is decent, I would eat it on toast lol. So I gave it to leah and she loved it. She has been used to rougher textures all along. Her first food was home made butternut mashed with the fork. She eats maccoroni cheese, chicken al la king etc at crèche, it just gets squashed more, and wheat bix and stuff so ya, she is used to it. She sommer eats off my plate when I have dinner.

Lolli - he will have to help cover rent for you and lo because you were married. the formula most attorneys use is as follows:

Daddy Total cost of baby, incl rent, med, creche, nappies, milk, food, cloths, products, travel, extra murals x his salary (R18 000 would be 18) divide by 26.5 = His contribution

MNommy Total cost of baby, incl rent, med, creche, nappies, milk, food, cloths, products, travel, extra murals x your salary (8.5 if you earn eg R8500) divide by 26.5 = R 1090.57 round off to R1091.00


EG:

Lourens: R3400 x 18 divide by 26.5 = R2309.43 round off to R 2310.00

Vicky: R3400 x 8.5 divide by 26.5 = R 1090.57 round off to R1091.00


The above is excluding babies rent portion. He is resposible for rent for T to.

Eg rent is R5000. Divide 2, makes babie sportion R2500, od which you cover the percentage worked out above and he the other. Call the above 1 third you, 2 thirds him, then he will have to pay R1600 and you will pay R800 approx.

Hi ladies

I can only assume a lot of you think I was out of hand yesterday. I am sorry if you feel that way. I was not attacking you M2B. I just know from exp what us women deserve and to me if a man makes you cry even just a bit, if you get heartsore from him once or a few times, then he is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated.

Lolli and M2B I am sorry you ladies are having drama with the daddies, but trust me girls, if I as a 25 year old receptionist, can raise 2 kids on my own and also be under debt review, you can do it to. You need to give yourselves more credit. You are strong, passionate, loving mommies and you can do anything when it comes to you lo’s.

Ladies I have been through a lot, and I have survived, I am a better stronger women for it and because I have been walked on, disrespected, treated like dirt, called names, taken advantage of, and left out in the rain. What you are going through might be very different I don’t know, but I do know you will be fine either way.

A man doesn’t make you a better women, you putting your foot down and telling him you wont take his sh1t, is what makes you a better women. We need to look after ourselves in order to give our lo’s the best. As far as I am concerned I cant give my kids a happy healthy lifestyle if I am not happy. I grew up with my mom and dad always fighting and both very unhappy. If made my childhood krappy. I had no confidence, I always kept tomysel and let ppl walk all over me. After my sons dad left me 3 weeks preg I decided that I would not let me son grow up like I did. I decided to stop letting the men in my life treat me like they did. I took a stand and I did what I needed to do for my son. As soon as Lourens started his krap, I tried to fix it, but quickly realised that he wouldn’t change, that he wanted me to change my morals and lower my standards to fit in with him. I refused to do that. I left work at 12h00 on day and packed my stuff, and by 5pm when he got home, I wasn’t there. It was the best thing I did. Yes I went through my pregnancy alone and I am now raising 2 kids on my own, but they have a happy mommy who will always put them first and not let a man hurt them or their mommy.

If its meant to be I assure it will be. God knows us, our hearts and he has a plan for each and everyone of us. Pray, ask for his guidance, and be at peace with Gods answer.

Made me think of another funny story. My SIL and her hubby were taking a nap one sunday afternoon while her 2 boys (6 and 4) where also supposed to be napping. When they woke up all the fish in the tank were floating.
They boys "het vis gevang" then they "cleaned" them and when they were tired of the game, just popped them back into the tank