Soweto Ladies

damn i wrote a long story only for it to dissapear.. mcim!

Kaytee i am nt encouraging dis,bt i knw,me and bd have been 2geda 4 5yrs,we had our share of drama,there ws a point where i was doing al the fighting,i left,we didint last a week apart and he came begging,lyk dey say,u gona loose a diamond while ur busy chasing after coal.

Kay, why dot you just tell us what went down, that he cant forgive, then we can take it from there. Maybe we can shed some light on this issue that is weighing you guys down.

Thats the thing, I've been fighting this battle all alone gals and what hurts even worse is he knows ive been fighting and he says he needed space. why did he not tell me this?? did it make him feel good to see me cry? and moan and groan about us whereas he knows he's not into it anymore.

He tells me he loves me, but when u love someone, you forgive right? you move on?? he doesnt, he clings to the past and does not ever ever let go. Right now one of the issues is something that happened B was probably a week old, it was talked about and i thought it was done, but guess what, its one of the reasons why he's being distant. No i honestly can not watch my back in my own relationship.. hayi no.

Dont they say, if you love something set it free and if its meant to be yours it will come back or something like that??

eish now i'm in the mood for ama red squares, stru..

I hear you ladies,bt wat happens wen ur the only one fighting,and ur partner couldnt care less,wat then?you both have to put in a good fight to save ur family,and if u knw ur man,u'l knw if he is done or if it's jst a fling driving hm mad.

Now thats what I am talking about.
deal with your issues , head on, and dont be scared, and dont give up!

Tough Love ne...but what you said here is true!!!

Ladies you know to tell the truth relationships are COMPLICATED, and if some1 told you they were the happiest couple on earth,,,ITS A LIE!!! But at the end of the day the love has to be there, and that should take any couple far!!!

Hubby and I have been together for more than 10 years, and its been a loooooooooooooooong road, not sure how many times he's cheated on me, but I only found out twice...and Im not gonna be an angel, Ive cheated on him too...YES ladies I have, and he found out . I'm stupid, the thing is when Im in love, its so hard for me to hide it, I fall hopelessly in love and he just picked it up in a week coz I started neglecting him, got all sorts of thoughts about the other guy, and the mistake I did, was leave smses on my phone, so coz he was suspicious already, he went straight to my phone, and guess what??? Yep he found all he wanted. And you know ladies you wont believe what happend afterwards, instead of him hating me and all, its like he fell in love with me all over again. Coz I had to protect myself, and play the "oh I felt unloved, felt lonely, needed comfort"(this was after he cheated the 1st time) and this guy just happened to be there and offered all my needs.

What I was happy about was that, we both forgave and were willing to work things out and continue building our family, coz I must tell you there is 1 thing I believe in is family.

My parents have been my greatest inspiration when it comes to relationships. They have been together since age 16 and 18 respectively...and they are still together. It has been a tough road, esp for my mom, my dad just love women...sorry he's my dad, but yoooooooooooo. And in all this he fathered a child, my 1/2 sister 25 years which I love too much!!! My mom has been so strong, and has worked so much in keeping her family together. Ive seen what they went through, but to the people outside, we just seemed like the happiest family, which isnt a lie coz we were/are happy, apart frm my dad loving women, they both still love each other so much and would do anything to keep their family together. Im not saying cheating is ok, but I mean this is life and its a reality, people cheat, and what can you do??? I cant leave my partner coz he cheats, what would happen if I leave him and find that the next one cheats, and the next one, and the next one??? Its all about respect for each other...but others would argue that if you cheat, then you dont respect yourself, and your partner...geeeeeeeeez I just dont believe that...

This has kept me strong and I also made a vow to keep my family together unless hubby would tell me straight in the eye, he doesnt love me anymore. Loving some1 is not easy, coz you share your space with this person, and of cos there are gonna be days where you feel like you hate them, but as they always say, love needs a lot of work...you work on it all the time. If I see that things start slacking from my side I start putting more effort, like sending a kinky sms...asking him out on a date, and not just wait for him...

eish ladies I think Ive just talked too much Im blubbering...

Kaytee my advise to you is to fight for him sisi...fight and DONT give up please...Communicate with him and you know your man, even if he doesnt answer you coz that;s what they normally do, you can/will tell how he feels about you. But fight sisi, dont give up...do it for the 3 of you.