Expanding the Fertility Threads???

Monica, i am so sorry what you had to go through. I get tears in my eyes reading your post.

((hugs)))

First sign is to make sure your baby moves every hour......and touch and nudge your tummy to make baby move. your baby must move all the time..... make a mental note and try and make sure baby moves a little each hour.

Watch for leaking waters - even if it is ever so slightly. (A little bit difficult in summer cos everyone sweats. but if your panties are even a little wet - just rather be safe than sorry.)

And you must take it easy.... you must be resting and putting your feet up and let everyone else do things for you. You must feel like a useless lazy bum!! After all you are carrying the miracle of life around in your tummy!

don't think you are being a paranoid pregnant lady by phoning your gynea and chekcing all the time... you pay them so much they shouldn't mind putting your mind at ease. Phone them for everything that you not sure of.

I lost my baby at 32 weeks. We were so close - yet still so far!!
My waters apparently broke (or leaked) and I did not know. Because i leaked all the fluid, the baby did not have anything protecting him and I got an infection and this is what caused his death.
I felt him move inside for the last time on the Wednesday and it was quite a big kick or punch. I literally felt him trying to push my tummy from the inside.(That was a sign that I did not notice!)
On the friday I had intense upper thigh pain..... although i had, had that pain through out my pregnancy. I went and did grocery shopping so I thought it was just because I had walked so much.
I only realised that i have not felt him in a while on the saturday. I ate chocolate, I drank coffee, I drank coke.... but nothing.
Eventually went to the hospital on the sunday. (silly me for waiting so long but you think you are just being paranoid.) The doc confirmed that baby had been dead for a few days already.
It was the worst moment of my life.
And then to be told that I have to try and deliver this dead baby normally...... shock. The inducing did not work and I only dilated like 4cm and they eventually did a c section on the monday afternoon (3hr long c-section and I landed up in ICU because baby had given me an infection.)
This is the shortened version. I have not actually written down all the details.....

i certainly don't wish this on anyone.

All i can say is that you must feel your baby move all the time.... if baby does not move you make baby move.... and if still not moving go to the hospital so that they can do the feotal monitor thingy..... even if you land up goign to the hospital often.... rather go and be safe than sorry and put your mind at ease.
Also use your gynea - you certainly pay them enough and they are the experts that we trust... USE them - phone them, bug them - put your mind at ease for anything you not sure of.

I agree completely.
My 3rd pregnancy I was a stressball of note.
Hence the fact that I asked my gynea if LG could come out already at 36 weeks. We did that cos I was too stressed.....
so i do understand what you are saying.

But at the same time - still born was not even apart of my vocab until the day it happened to me.
And then once it happened to me - i heard of so many stories, and then I actually saw how common it actually is. Then I think back, if i only knew.... to watch out for it.... watch out for signs .... etc etc.

These threads should just be out there so that moomies are aware that it does happen.
As I said - under a different category and then they can choose whether they want to read about or not.....
it should just be there cos it is common and it does happen.

I like the ideas!

I think the charting/ovulation would be nice, to get some advice from other who've been charting also.

Then the 2WW is also nice, i understand about the symptom spotting thing, but it could be nice to compare symptoms also, especially from those who got their bfp's.

Monica you were not Naive at all. One should always try to be positive during a pregnancy and I think knowing too much can create issues. I know too much so I didn't bond with my son during my pregnancy for fear of loosing him. I had a dreadful birth yet moms don't really need to know about what happened as it really doesn't happen often and would just cause them stress.

I think moms need to know the warning signs to look for and they need to follow their instinct, but so often even our caregivers tell us it's nothing to worry about etc and sometimes there are no symptoms or warning signs.

Sadly these things happen, but I think it would be good to chat to other moms who have been through it and then get professional help in dealing with it too.

Julz i agree completely.
Baby making should be fun.

Maybe under a different category it should definately be a topic for sure.
The new to be moms should then be able to decide whether they want to read about it or not. (Just so that they are aware that it DOES happen and sometimes just too easily.)
It must just be out there......
These sorts of things weren't out there when this all happened to me and I wish it had so that it opened my eyes.
(Maybe i was just too naive.)