Trying for a 2017 Baby

@Liza - Yup we are in the same boat. I'm as healthy as can be - A bit chubby, but apart from that, all medical tests came back clear. When we saw our FS in July last year, he also suggested IVF as our best option, because of hubby's results. Hubby has 2% morphology and just over 15mill spermcount. So it's low. Apart from that, all the other goodies are ok. It is frustrating to know that there is nothing more that I can do to better our chances of conceiving. I can lose weight, but that's about it.

I don't mind saving up for IVF, but it might take a while, I have to admit... Especially since we have such a high bond. Luckily, we have no other debt, so that helps. Maybe I should save up in secret, and when I have enough money, I will convince hubby to go for IVF with me, if we haven't conceived by then. I really don't know...

My FS says that I need to lose 20kgs before he will consider treating us further, or doing IVF for that matter, so that helps.

Maybe I should tell hubby that we'll start saving up for IVF, and take the pressure off during the cycles - If it happens naturally, great. If not, then at least next year, we will be able to do IVF.

@Anzel i do understand. We are not paying nearly as much for our IVF and i am also worried about it not working and us losing the money. But on the other hand ... What if it does work! It's a huge gamble i know!

As i understand we are in the same medical situation? When i read your notes on your signature it seems that only DH has a problem? Or is there other problems as well?

In our situation it's only DH with the low sperm count. I'm as healthy as can be. Which makes is a touchy subject when speaking about infertility to family and friends.

According to the FS our chances of conceiving with the first round of IVF is very good seeing that i am healthy. I'm just praying that it works.

@Liza - My hubby is not so keen on treatments, like IVF or IUI. In his opinion, the cost doesn't warrant the risk. We got a quotation for almost R60k for one cycle of IVF, and off course there is no guarantees that it will work. If if doesn't work for us, then we lose that money. And with a bond, we can't afford to lose as much. And to make matters worse, where we stay, we don't have a fertility clinic, so I'll have to travel to a city, which will incur additional costs of transport, accommodation, meals etc. So it is hard - I know that IVF is our best option - Hubby has a count and morphology problem, and although he has been on treatment for over a year, I don't know if it has made any difference. He wanted to go for a sperm analysis a few weeks back, and I stopped him. I know he hates it and he doesn't want to do it, and that he only suggested that because he wants to help me, but I can't do that to him a third time. I know I ovulated on my own last month, so now I just hope that everything is fine with hubby and that it's just a matter of time.

I just called my gynae for a new prescription for clomid - I have the suspicion that he'll want to do a scan again, before we go ahead with treatment, which I'm not looking forward to, as I'm on my period! But hey, if it has to happen, it has to happen.

@ Thaier depending on when you OV'd this could be Implantation bleeding? Fingers crossed!

@ Anzel so good to hear from you! I do know exactly how you feel as i struggle with these demons cycle after cycle. With regards to the MC. Its almost 3 years since ours and it still hurts. I think that the pain never goes away we just learn to live with it.

This is why we decided to do the IVF. We know that DH has low sperm count, and as the FS said that we have a 5% chance of conceiving naturally. I'm just not willing to "try" another 3 years and nothing may happens

I am of the opinion that God wants me and DH to go on the journey of IVF. Maybe he needs us to walk this road together .... Since we started planning for IVF and we decided to only do it in Jan 2017 there were so many things that just fell in place for it to be possible to do it earlier. Call me crazy but i take that as a sign!

Hi, ladies

I am doing ok, still. Just very busy with work, writing and our vinyl cutter with designs. Had two unmedicated cycles, and finally ovulated on my own this last cycle. I had a very short cycle (24 days) as I ovulated earlier than usual. I am on CD 2 today, and considering going back on Fertomid/Clomid 150mg vir this cycle, starting from tomorrow.

I have to admit, I'm just about to give up on TTC - I am tired and exhausted of disappointment after disappointment. I know I should believe and trust God and His perfect timing, but I feel very neglected, as if I am less favored than others.

It's been four months and counting since my miscarriage in May and although the pain has subsided, the questions have not. I am very never minded about the whole thing - Hubby doesn't want to talk about it. None of my friends understand, so I really do not have anyone to talk to about this, except for this forum. I've seen your posts and read everyone of them over the last two cycles, but just did not have the courage to respond.

I do remember that @Nikita got her BFP! Congratulations, girl! So happy for you! You deserve this miracle! Praying for a sticky bean. Keep us updated.

Welcome to the new ladies - Hope that your stay will be short!

BTW, if anyone of you would like wall-art/stickers for your houses, rooms or nurseries, let me know. We can now design and cut those stickers for you.

Hi everyone

I Hope all is doing well.

I need to ask a question and hope that someone can help me. I had my first period after the miscarriage on 28 August. Lasted for 6 days as normal. On Friday on cycle day 20 I had some light bleeding that only lasted a few hours and only when I wiped. I put in a pad but only a few drops wer on it. The Saturday morning there was no sign of any blood an not again. I dont know what to think.

Im so confused. Has this happened to anyone before?

Have a great day

Morning Ladies

How all you all doing today?

@Chanti have you heard anything yet from the FS?

@ NicolaF are you feeling better already?

From my side CD5 for me. AF has officially left!

I'm down to 2 cups of coffee a day .... I have constant headache and I'm thinking its because of my cutback on the caffeine. This is really hard to keep up seeing as i love my coffee!

@Anzel it's been so long since we've heard from you?