TB @ 4 MONTHS

I must say today is a better day than yesterday, talking about my feelings has really made me feel lighter. I think my biggest fear was that i could have lost my son due to someones negligence and i just needed to get an objection opinion from someone who was not so emotionally tied up in my predicament so thank you all very much. I was so angry at some point suing had crossed my mind but i really do not have the energy for it, i am just trying to be the best mum for my boy i can be.

(almost smiling again)

Hi there

Sorry that you are feeling so bad right now. It's the mommy curse, guilt and I recon if it wasn't the injection something else would make you feel guilty.

So firstly checking meds is not a mom's job. You trust your caregivers and she made a mistake. Thankfully your son only has tb as this could have been really serious!!!! You must be so furious.

I wasnt present when dylan had his shots either and even when I am I don't ask if they have the correct dose.

So secondly thank you so much for sharing this so that we as parents can take note of what they give our kids!!!

You can take this out on the hospital staff and yes something must be done about it even if it means that they need to put checks and balances into place to ensure this doesn't happen again. You could sue, but it is just going to take endless amounts of energy which you clearly don't have at this time.

Take the time you need to come to terms with this. It is a scary situation and the reason you may be struggling to come to terms with this is not so much your guilt , but the possiblitly that due to the nurses actions you could have lost your child which would explain your mindset.

Hugs to you .
x

First of all IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT !!

I was not even present when either of my boys recieved their BCG in hospital, so yes she should have known what she was doing.

Secondly, your LO has now built up an immunity to TB and it will be extremely rare for him to get it later on in life, where it would possibly be harder to detect.

Thirdly, most of SA children have been exposed to TB at some time in their lives. This just makes it easier for their bodies to fight it off in the future.

About 6 months ago I went for a routine operation and some tissue was sent away for routine testing. Doc came back with possible TB (was negative), but I went to my GP and spent about an hour with him - if caught early there is only 1 strain which is actually dangerous.
I asked him if I needed to let my friends know, maybe get them all tested if positive and he actually laughed at me !! He said if I did have it, it could be something as arb as the petrol attendent coughing around me and because my immune system was run down, I got it.

Okay, all that might actually seem rather pointless as you are worried about your child, but what I really wanted to say is, TB is CURABLE, TB is not bad, yes 9 months of meds is a nightmare, but your LO will handle it better than you do.

And the main point is - NOTHING you did caused it !!

thanks 1st timer

in the back of my mind somewhere i guess i know it's not my fault. My partner thinks i am going through the phase self guilt and soon i will move on to anger that is when the idea of suing the hospital will seem like a way out of my guilt. What i hate most about this is having to give my minogie those pills every morning luckily he seems to like the tastes but he is so young and months is a long time away

thanks you, memo your words are comforting

Ditto what memo said!

O, wow, NOBODY double checks this sort of thing (surely) What on earth would you check for?
This is not your fault!! It's the nurses fault and I
thiNk you should be suing!
Why do we always blame ourselves for everything, I dont know, I'm the same so I cant help there.
As much as this sucks, and I'm sure it really really does, I think you should be taking it out on someone else.
(Like the idiot nurse)
Best wishes and hugs
xx