When to have your 2nd child?

I would like to have a 3 year gap between my children, but because we'd love to have 4 (yeah, I know...) we don't have the luxury of time!

I'm almost 30 and would like to be done by the time I'm 35! I would really, really love to have twins (yeah, again, I know...), which would give me a bit longer time in between pregnancies, but you can't "order" your children... So we're currently planning on TTC when our LG turns 1.

Welcome Annk, I see this was your first post!

We have a agegap of 2years 8months. I wanted 3 because of the attention my firstborn would get and then it would have given my body time to recover from pregnancy and better prepared for the 2nd. We want another baby but now financial issues are the biggest factor. My LG is 5 and my son 3 and I am 32! Well if it happens I hope it would be before my son is 5.

thanks for the article marijke.
A lot of our friends decided to go for the small age gap, thinking that the siblings will be closer relationshipwise. (One couple even got triplets, trying for no 2 while no.1 was still a year imagine that!!!
They have 3 childen under the age of 3!

Everyone was telling us, don't wait too long, otherwise it will be too difficult too handle a small baby with little sleep again. I was really putting a lot of pressure on myself to "get ready" for trying for no. 2. Thanks for this thread, because after a few months of struggling with this, I think I have made my peace. We will opt for the 3 year age gap, despite the fact I might struggle to fall pregnant because of having only one fylopian tube.
Emotionally I am defnitely not ready to have another baby now, so I will relax now and enjoy my little girl and give her all the atention I can.

THe other thing, it seems as if the main reason for getting them close together was that the sibling will be "closer" or friends.
Now, I thought by myself...What do I wish for: "Me being closer with my siblings or my mom spending more time with me?" That was no contest, since my mom had 4 children in a short time, so we were all emontionally neglected. All the issues that I struggle with personally can be traced back to not being nurtured and selfesteem being boosted at a young age when needed by my mom.

THANKS LADIES! you have helped me a lot!!

Here are a couple of interesting points from the woman who wrote baby, sleep and toddler sense

www.babysense.com/articles/time-for-number-2/

Edited to add: I get along better with my sister who is 9 years older than me than the one that is 6 years older

Jems thanks for the offer but I wonder whether I would recover from that one reminds me of the time I was invited to spend the day with a friend and her new born (thinking about falling pregnant at the time)and witnessing my first unbelievably explosive poo

Some interesting points of view. I will probably aim for a 2.3 - 3yr gap. But longer than that and I start entering the higher risk zone.

At least I'll be going into it with my eyes wide open to some of the realities that have been raised here. Lots to think about!

DH and I decided that we would start trying when J is around 2 years old.

I dont want there to be too much of an age gap, and I think that a 3 yr gap would be nice.