When to have your 2nd child?

4 yrs is also the right age gap for me. My son was 4 and a half when his brother was born. I had spent and given Jaydon alot of attention and now when Kyle needs attention, Jaydon can keep himself busy. I dont think I would have been able to cope with 2 small childern both under 2 yrs.

Juno I have a small age gap and honestly it is VERY hard! Both are still babies and need alot of individual attention. Usually Jade gets left to her own devices while I need to feed Troy for example and then she gets bored and then she gets naughty. Her listening skills are still "developing" and when you are stuck with a baby stuck your boob and your 2 year old trying to pour her own juice or something similar it's chaos.

If I had had the choice I would have definitely waited a bit longer. Jade is getting better the older she gets but it is still hard on her.

I attempted bath time alone a few times but never again as you can't be in 2 places at the same time.

4 years for me. I always say those with kids who are less than 2 1/2 years apart didn't know what they are letting themselves in for

I personally just wouldn't cope with two small kids. I want another baby (3rd one). Megan is 2 1/2 now so we will wait until next year and then Megan will be just over 4 when baby number 3 is born. Kayla was 4 years, 4 months when Megan was born and it was lovely. She could do everything herself and she is helping me a lot with Megan.

Also prefer a summer baby. I'm not a winter person at all!

Juno - there are pro's and cons to each age gap.

My kids are 4 years and 4 1/2 years apart. Works for me as the one is self-sufficient before introducing the next one. I then do not have more than one in nappies, and the bigger ones can assist in fetching and carrying or just keeping themselves busy while I am busy with the smaller ones.

But smaller gaps also have benefits.

I personally do not think I would cope with a very tight age gap - as you said two kids under two must be a challenge. But everything is doable ... with or without the sanity drugs.

I personally preferred a summer baby, as keeping a tiny baby warm in winter was less than fun.

Also the fact that you are always wet - breast milk, puke - is easier to deal with in summer than in winter.

My son was a December baby, my daughters are both June babies.

Juno, I'm in Swartland so I'm with you on that one! That's why I said, BIG NO NO!!!

A winter baby - wouldn't that be a pleasure! I'm in the Boland and had a Jan baby - very, very uncomfortable - hubbie suffered most severely:)I would not want a repeat of that..I'm also thinking of the end of this year. Hope it happens for you.

my personal choice was a 4 year gap or bigger. This was LO 1 would have had chance to have serious personal attention from us, gone through a lot of the big developmental stages, and be on her way to big school, so that when LO 2 came I would have the first half of the day to spend exclusivly on him/her and have a lot of the same that LO 1 did. She would also be mainly independant, so I would not be having to look after two "babies" changing sets of nappies, have sets of bottles etc.