home after hospital

i had a c-section on the wed morning and came home on the friday morning. i needed to 'go home'. i had a bed in the baby's room so that i wouldn't disturb the household with a potential screaming baby (my first child was TERRIBLE for months) and i dreaded the fact that it could the same again. i mastered the breastfeeding in ashley's pink and white room. we bonded deeply there. my hubbie brought me tea often, even if i was asleep. things were going fantastic. then we had the first load of family over... craig's folks and my folks on the sunday. i was knackered trying to get some food done, i choked on my juice and felt like my abdomen was splitting in two. i then decided to go to bed and stayed there for about a week until that pain went. in her second week i moved back into my room - i dearly missed my hubbie! i had maid that came to clean luckily and craig cooked for us all.
i was the type of mom that needed alot of quiet personal time to figure out these boobs, this new person and how to juggle sleep. i should have rested in peace for a week before guests came. lesson learned, and painfully learned! i didn;t answer my phone either, but replied to my 'special' friends x

I remember coming home on a Sunday and having friends come over and stay till after 9pm!! I was so tired... Yes, I wanted to see my friends and introduce them to my baby but was just so exhausted

I was lucky that my hubby took 2 weeks off with me and then my mom was was also off for another 2 weeks so I had help for the first month

My mom came to live with us when Mignione was born and it didn't work out at ALL. I just wanted to hold my baby the whole time cause it was such a miracle to wait for her so long and then be able to hold her, and my mom felt like a didn't want her there. On the one hand I really needed her there to help out in the house and also with Mignione, but on the other hand I just wanted to be alone with manlief and baby. So she felt left out and got upset if I didn't use her advice, so eventually she left on a bad note. So I suggest if you and your mom doesn't get along EXTREMELY well, rather wait about 2weeks (like Deja did) before letting moms or MIl's come and stay there.

I got a few visitors during the first week but eventually just told everyone that I needed a bit of time alone. Mignione cried alot in the beginning. Hopefully the next baby (if there is one!!!) will be easier then I can deal with visitors in the beginning

I didnt get out of bed until like 10:30 most days. Since it was winter I loved staying in bed with Bekah.

I had so many visitors in the first few weeks and it was exhausting although I appreciated everyone coming around. After those first few weeks you are forgotten and that is when you have actually settled in and would love some company

I did all of my house work and it was exhausting - would definitely do that differently next time.

It all worked out in the end.

When I was pregnant I told my husband that his parents aren't allowed to stay with us when I come home from the hospital. They could stay at the house while I was in hospital but they have to be gone when I get home.

It really was the best choice I made, although my MIL was upset I didn't care as I knew that I would need time to adjust.

My hubby was home for the first 2 weeks after B was born and I actually don't remember having anyone over for the first 2 weeks, possibly because all our friends and family know that you really do need time to adjust. I was sore and kind of limping around the house feeling sorry for myself for the pain I was in - not a pretty site and not a look that you would like to share with unannounced visitors.

In the Netherlands (where my parents are from) they send out birth announcements and on the card it states when visitors are allowed at home (everyone does homebirths) either at a certain time of day for 2 hours or a phone number where you can call to arrange a visit.

Ever wondered what happens when you get home from the hospital:

people do not stop coming round and you dont even have to close your front door...
WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!
you have every right to say to the loved ones around you that you love them emmensly but you need a week on your own with your husband and this new person to figure out what he/she wants, to bond as a family and to get some rest and sleep if you can.
I have a friend who should "pop" anyday and unfortunetely her husband cannot get off work, new job, so she said people are welcome during the day but after 5 no-one is allowed cause then its their bonding time, and i agree 100%.

you have a hectic time ahead of you and last thing you wanna do is be running around serving guests.
if you have a very good friend who can come round and look after the baby for a bit so you can sleep for a hour and have a bath, wash your hair and put on some make-up, to have a moment to feel human, do it!!!

how do you remember you first few days after coming home from the hospital?