Due December 2017

@Pinky - I am so excited for you!!! I had to stop myself from shaking before my appointment on Tuesday, was so nervous! I'm praying that this will be a healthy pregnancy and that you will hear a beautiful heartbeat!

I also cant wait to rock a belly Am counting down the weeks until i can expect to maybe show

Hi ladies

I am so happy to be "friends" with such strong women, you are inspiring.

Its my scan day tomorrow, i am so nervous, I dont know how im not going to freak out tomorrow morning, going at 11.
I am confident and believe that everything is and will be fine but the fear still creeps in. It was horrible last time to lay there waiting to see and hear baby and there is nothing. worst experience of my life. but im sure everything will be fine. I want to start getting excited about the lil one on the way. Please pray and keep us in your prayers.

cant wait to rock a belly!!!!!

Hey ladies!

@Reef and @Jooste - I'm quite the opposite to the two of you with the fertility treatments and people knowing. All of our family and closest friends knew and during the cycle I actually selected a few to inform so that they could pray for us and help us through the tough times especially because we had to travel alot. We did our official announcement on Tuesday after our scan and included in it that we had struggled for two years and had two failed cycles of IVF. I didn't openly tell everyone about doing IVF as I didn't want too many opinions but I definitely told those near and dear. I also wanted to include our struggle in our announcement because I feel that infertility is frowned upon and woman are made to feel so inferior that I felt it was important to show others that it is okay to have problems and it is okay to be hurt. I also started the IVF South Africa support page that now has over 600 members as I couldn't find any other support system for women going through IVF in south africa and it shocked me, it makes me feel so sad when people are alone. I know of another lady in my town that did IVF, she knew we were going through it and didn't message me once. If I know of a lady so close by that is going through the struggle that I did I will definitely make sure I reach out to her and let her know that I am there for support and she isn't alone. That is my side I totally get the whole its nobody's business side of it but to me I really wanted to create awareness about the realities of infertility and that it actually does happen to more people than you can imagine.

@Pinky - How are you doing??


AFM, after our 9 week scan on tuesday we decided to announce and the amount of love we have received is just over whelming!! It was so amazing seeing baby on the screen and hearing that beautiful heartbeat. I'm just so filled with love and so excited for us all!!

Joo~ste

I can understand how you feel. We've been at this for four and a half years. Our families know that we needed help and have been in and out with FS. What we did decide with the IVF though was we didn't tell anyone except my best friend that we were actually doing it. I found that my mother-in-law put too much pressure on me, although she didn't mean to. She literally wanted to know every step of the process, and when we were sitting at doctors rooms she was already asking for feedback. It annoyed me to be honest. So we did it alone and announced to the family last week. Response was absolutely overwhelming with lots of tears and everyone understood why we did not tell them.

However saying that, none of them really understand what it feels like not to be able to conceive naturally and having to go through this process. I'm currently all 'yay for science' because it worked. Sure I would have felt differently if it hadn't.

When it comes to telling other people, I will not be broadcasting the fact that I had IVF - none of their business really.

Long and short of it is that I get what you're going through.


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Reef
Well, I am so happy that it worked out so well for you!!
Have you told family and friends of your IVF / and pregnancy?

We are very private about our fertility struggles. In the beginning I was feeling very shy about the fact that we cannot seem to conceive naturally and as the months and then years went by - we decided to just not let people know we are going for fertility treatments. It worked very well for us. Then...when we started trying for nr. 3, it became less easy to keep it a secret as I was miscarrying all the time and with constant doctors appointments and hospital procedures most people started putting two and two together. I find it difficult to talk to people about it. Not everyone understands and I am really struggling emotionally with the insensitive (but well-meaning ) remarks.

Only my mom knows about this pregnancy. And I only told her a couple of months ago that Lee was conceived via IVF and that we have been walking this road in privacy all along. She was very upset with me....

Joo~ste

We took the advice of my FS due to my age. I'm almost 38. Also it apparently significantly improves the success rate of the IVF.

Due to the cost of IVF, this was our one and only shot, so we did everything in our power to make it work. And it did... yay


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Reef
I also only had 1 embie survived that we placed back in 2012 after our IVF .....and today Lee is a happy 4 year old walking around. I think the girls-embies tend to have less chromosomal issues. I never did the genetic testing - was planning on doing that if that IVF cycle failed, but luckily she stayed put and all was fine.

I would have also wanted to have some frozen embies to work with and I actually think I should have gone back after she was born and got some frozen ...then I would have had 36yr old eggs to work with now...instead of my 40yr eggies.

But - DH and I really truly believe that this little one is healthy and that all will be okay. We are going to discuss the Harmony test with the fetal specialist on the 30th. We want to make 100% sure that she is fine before even going for the 12 week scan.

If I may ask:
Why did you opt for genetic testing during your IVF? Have you had unsuccessful cycles before? You might have said it...but I cannot seem to remember much ....