Oct/Nov 2008 mommies!

Julz- It's the age old joke of 'what do you see when you enter the church on your wedding day?' Aisle, Alter, You he he he

Elwyn likes that I'm his wife and not just his girl but I don't actually think the marriage makes our relationship any different. I said the other night to Elwyn, if we didn't have kids yet our relationship would still be strong but not nearly as strong, respectful and powerful as it is after having a child together. We are so much more in love from having had C and I can see it more so nnow I'm pregnant again. Before we were both very nervous about the pregnancy but this time we are just both so chilled and genuinely happy. We now now that a child won't cause us problems in our relationship but it brings us so much closer. If we didn't get married we would still have that same bond. The wedding was fun but pretty pointless really LOL

Vix I agree fully. I have another friend. He is muslim, she is christian and they respect each others faith.

Neil and I won't marry because he doesn't want to and I am okay with that. My family are not okay with it but my mom has had a chance to live her life as she wants to and I will too.

while we discuss things and compromise, we do not insist that the other does something they do not want to do. Luckily we have similar beliefs etc so no hassle but I don't understand people who become very religious because their partner is.

Be true to yourself or it won't work.

Nicole- I'm really sorry your brother has let you and your family down. Julz is right, addicts need help but what can you do if you keep trying and it doesn't help? If he's not going to help himself then how can others help? His poor fiance and child! Vent all you want to friend, that's why we're here! Xxx

Nicole I am so sorry about your brother. We tend to think of drug addicts as problems when they actually have a disease which needs treatment and support just as cancer would.

I know how hard this is on the family. I had my Uncle thrown in Jail for christmas to protect my Gran.

Thinking of you and them.

If one changes for the other, quite often, when a marriage hits hard times one will blame the other for their choices. Elwyn would've loved to see me every night er work but he allowed me to continue touring until I was ready to give it up myself. I have never had any reason to blame him for my lifes choices.

Nelria- sorry about your fight yesterday. Me & Elwyn learnt very early on that we cannot be in the kitchen together, that is divorce material LOL if I want himm to help with Dinner then he must do it all or go get take out. Men really struggle to multi task I don't care what they say and they are soooo slow when they do things it's frustraiting enough but I'm sure you're really feeling the pressure with the imminent arrival of Xen. I had a dream about you last night. I remember looking at your pic yesterday and saying how high Xen still is, we spent the day at the Boere markt but you were running off all over the place like a loony getting things ready for the birth. You came to say bye and your tummy was lower than ever, and I said 'Nelria, look, he's gonna come any time now, stop, slowdown!' LOL I am obviously subcontiously worried you're over doing it! Please find some chill out time my friend! Xxxxxx

Ally I think its a decision they will have to speak about, it may be a bit hard and confusing ecpecially if the family intervenes.

I am so p%ssed at the moment. My brother was admitted to rehab last night. He has had an ongoing problem with drugs and booze since he was in his late teens. THe thing is he has been clean on and off for the past 3 years or so, and now has a 22 month son (the one that might have autism) He went crazy the other night and ended up spending most of their montly money on booze and drugs and dissapered for a night. I feel so sorry for his fiance and son who have to live with a self centred, arrognant, selfish person like him. As i know my bro and have had to live in terror of him when I was quite young and he was always on drug binges, He does it to get himself attention from the family. Now the money being spent on him being in rehab,s hould of being used to get the 22month old occupational therpy etc. I know i may self like a heartless cow, but this is my brother and this is what he does to people who love him. He doesnt need help, he needs to get his head straight and rehab doesnt work for him. His been there, done that, got the Tshirt and all.

Sorry for the vent.

Ally & Julz i think K is also going to be a performer, either a singer or dancer as he looooves music ecspecially lady gaga and AC-DC lol

Vix, I agree 100%. C isn't Christian and I never asked him to become Christian. I don't want him asking me to become atheist so I don't expect that of him. My family were all concerned but too bad. It's my life and I will live it as I please.

I don't know what's going to happen with them but I hope they sort it out and that they are both happy.