August-September 2010 Moms

Wow, babies coming fast now

Congrats Charnenay!!!
Congrats Blessed!!!

So, who is next

Went for my check-up - everything still fine.
Baba still in proper position, seems he's just been stretching a bit more than usual

geluk blessed. geniet jou mannetjie!! Alle eer aan God wat julle tot hier gebring het. jou klein man is hier. lekker popspeel! xox

ladies blessed's wait is over, she is our newest mommy!!! lil Armand was born!!! 50cm tall and weighing 3.8kgs

CONGRATS Charn!!! may your lil girl just fill your days with love!!

mommy2J strongs, in a way i can relate...we had our hiccups, so much so that we went for professional help. I would suggest you guys go and seek professional help and you will see that an 'outside person' will give you an objective view on what you guys can do to make things better...and note we went through this (the help) earlier this year...whilst being preggies with our second lil one.

OK re the c-sec...i might be having one, only time will tell - will be my second c-sec if i end up having it. is booked for 16 Aug (my EDD/40weeks)

Charnenay's little girl Emily Mikayla was born at 11:57 today and weighs 3.16kgs, 49cm tall.
Mom & baby both doing fine!

And looks like Blessed 2 be may not need an induction tonight as seems labour could arrive sooner.

Shew exciting times hey!

everything is difficult and compicated, from our sex life to our families nothing seems to just come natuarally, there is no just doing it because its important to me he will fight me on everything and with our daughter now i cant help but feel it is the only thing causing us to make it work cos there is very little between us.

We dont agree on disipline for our daughter, family interferance(they are italian and i spent the most part of our relationship being critisised by his over controlling mom) yet i took that in my stride and even lived with her when i became a mom for the first time because he did not want her to be alone and he was living there since his father passed away, so after all the critism and attacks from his 3 sisters and mom i moved in with him and his mom and tackled being a young new mom under her watchful critical eye.

It caused alot of tention with us 2 but for the most part i sucked it up and new one day we would start our lives together, and we did eventually move out when she was 6 months old but because things had got so bad between his family and myself. i forgave them and welcomed them into my home and life and things were better then ever between us all, i created my own relationships with them something he does not care to do with my family! I would invite his mom for breakfast, have her over for dinner and just had a normal daughter in law relationship with her, it was much easier when i wasnt under her roof, he cant even be left alone with my family and he freaks out about that he gives me strict instructions to not leave him alone if i actually ever do get him to attend anything on my family's side!

He is impossible and shows no commitment to me or willingness to try, he always sais he's not that type to go out of his way for anyone!


I have to say, i am older now and dissapointed that i settled for someone who really isnt sure if he wants to be with me, but as long as there is food on the table and his kids are looked after its convienient and he will go along with it it....but me (THE ACTUAL ME) is not someone he gives much thought or attention to.

I hope that he changes, or i hope that something does cos i am not finished with love and care and romance and feeling loved...i know what it feels like and i know im to young to give it all up for a man who might wake up one day....or might not!

Someone once said, just because you have not found someone to love you on your level...does not mean you need to stoop down to theirs!


just cos we have kids together does not mean we were meant to be together, i will try until i cant i will suck it up but that little piece of me that wants to know what it feels like to be with someone who feels the same for you as you do for them!

So who else is having c-sec?

and who is left and who has had babies...im not keeping up here?

@eileen- i feel that way with DH he was a bachelor for many years before we met he is 16 years older then me and when we met i was 18 and he 33, and i feel like he never knew i was the one for him, he never had to make any effort with me or persue me i conviently made it all work for him, he has always worked 7 days a week cos he owns his own company and has usded that as his excuse for everything that he does wrong. He has no time for my family and after 6 years he is not comfortable around them, he and i never go out or portray any kind of man /woman inlove relationship more like friendship/arrangement/roomates

HI everyone

Thanks girly for the advice, im doing just that im booked for my bikini wax tomorrow, my hair on wednesday and a pedicure in thursday a good friend of mine opend a salon so caffe lattes and a chat with her should do me good.

I havnt been to the hairdresser for months so thinking im going to get something short and managable for now will make my life so much easier, the long hair is killing me!

Friday is for bulk buying at woolies food, and stocking up for the weeks to come and weekend relaxing, Monday doing washing and monday evening im booking in c-sec Tuesday morning!

Its all happening so fast, i was at the hospital this morning its next to my daughters creche so i popped in after not feeling much movement the weekend and having the awful tummy cramps, they put me on the heart monitor and they are happy with her and me and still putting it down to that she is probably lying on my colon casing the pain!

The pain is dreadful, gynae was doing rounds so he came in to see me....and wanted to feel my crevix!!! i was totally unprepared for that so with two student nurses looking on i had no choice but to have my cervix probed all before id even had a cup of coffee and it was not the way i would have chosen to start my day but he did say she is not completely engaged and my cervix is tighlty closed so i am not near labour!

Also my chances for normal delivery dont seem that good, he will check again on thursday!! I have kind of settled with the idea of a c-sec but still somehow in two minds!
I wish someone could gaurentee a safe natural birth!

So while i was there a young girl came in with some cramping, they pulled the curtains closed and i heard them tell her wow you are already 6cm dilated and you seem like you not even in labour not long now and youll be pushing....she called family and her and her DH SAT THERE SO CASUALLY. I COULNT HELP BUT BE JELOUS, i so badley want that for me a easy birth, so unfair that something so natural can be so compicated for some!

Atleast i am blessed with a baby, some people struggle with that alone!
So when everyone left the room i couldnt help but pull the curtain back and ask 'HOW DO THE LABOUR PAINS FEEL" she through huffing and puffing said "frieking sore" so i said ok ill leave you to it then ha ha! but i actually would have liked a more in-depth explanation but she didnt seem in the mood! i wished her well on the way out!