August-September 2010 Moms

THanks Mommy2Monster. I know they are very excited about the baby, but I really don't want anyone there until I am ready to receive visitors. Going to chat to DH tonight and hope that he agrees with me. I love him very much, and the only time we ever argue is when it comes to his family!! So, I am not looking forward to this conversation at all because I know there will be a disagreement first before we reach an agreement Not sure what happens when I am not around, but I swear they brainwash him

I also don't want it to seem as if I am "pushing his family away", which is what I have been accused of many times before! But, I feel very strongly about this.

Last "argument" was when he asked if his mother could look after the baby the first week that I go back to work because she will still be on leave. I said no because Emily would need to get used to my mom who will be looking after her on a permanent basis and not be confused by getting used to 1 person the 1 week and then another the next. And also that I would only be working very short days the first week so she gets used to being with my mom first.

Thanks again Mommy2Monster - will let you know how it goes tonight

charnenay - my advice...get DH on your side. trust me it is very traumatic for new parents and baby if there is too many people visiting you in hospital. i still have nightmares bout it. my inlaws are pretty much the same (more FIL than MIL). i just told DH that this time round i want a quite birth experience with no one but our lil monster, DH, myself and baba...not bloody whooligans round my bed passing baby from one to the other (i'm also a softy so i did not say much 1st time round). it was stressfull cos i was scared of baby (cos he was so small) still the bloody idiots wanted to hold him (i had a prembaby and an emergency ceaser). i just stick to it - already told him/them that is what i want and we will invite them when we are ready for people...well they were upset with us and not happy at all.

and the reasoning we used was that we want to have baby's christening with our monster's b-day, cos in that way the grand parents can all meet the new eddition and be there for our lil monster's b-day...

Hey ladies

Your belly pics all look great I keep forgetting to bring my memory stick to work with my pics to post. And I don't really log on at night, we always seem to be doing something nowadays.

Ladies, need advice PLEASE: Does anyone else have an overbearing mother in law or is it just me? I am actually dreading the conversation I am going to have to have with DH tonight Mother in law has 2 other grandchildren, but they live in London and she has only seen them once when they were less than 2 months old (they just turned 3years earlier this month - twins). Well, when she went to visit in London, she changed the way their mother(her daughter in law, not daughter) did everything. To the point that she insisted they sleep on their tummies and not on their backs and would go and turn them around while they were sleeping if their mother put them on their backs. She also would not let their mother do anything for them because she insisted that she needed to as she was only going to see them for 3 weeks. Poor Kim (their mother), was told to clean the house, make their bottles, cook for her husband so that there was food when he came from work, etc.etc, while she sat with the babies all the time - Kim could not even bath them, pick them up when they cried or feed them (they were bottle fed).

Well, that's that story. She is generally overbearing and I am a softie, so I sort of just suck it up most of the time. She is already jealous that my mom is going to be looking after the baby when I go back to work next year. Thank goodness MIL works or that would have been an argument as well. WEll, my latest dilemna is that she has now decided that she is going to sit outside the theatre while I give birth!!!! Her reason is that she had ceasars with all her children under a general aneasthetic and by the time she woke up, the children were already bathed and dressed, so now is finally her chance to see what a newborn baby looks like!!!! And to top it all off, she doesn't tell me this and ask me if it is ok, NO, she announces it at dinner last night infront of complete strangers (it was my sister in law's bday and her friends were there). So, she just tells everyone that she can't wait for this baby and that she is gonna sit outside the hospital room and that DH is going to bring the baby to her first because she never had a chance to see what a baby looks like immediately after birth. If she is there, I just know that she is going to completely take over and that she won't give the baby to me to hold if I ask, she is going to want to bath her, dress her, etc.

I am so mad because MAYBE if she had asked me then I would have considered it, but to just assume and already tell everyone that, that is what she is going to do really pisses me off! I don't even know if it is allowed (I am hoping not!). DH and I have already discussed this and I told him that I wanted us to bond with the baby first, and I am not sure how I am going to feel immediately afterwards so don't really want people around me, and that everyone else could come that NIGHT at visiting hours (not even the afternoon slot)! The only person we had decided was going to be there (if she could) is my sister. My sister has 2 children and they are both adopted because she cannot have children of her own and so will never get to experience childbirth. My sister and I are also VERY close, so I decided that I would ask if she could witness the birth. Now, I am thinking that, that might also be an issue because he might say if she can be there, why can't his mother. AARGH!!!!


Ladies, WHAT TO DO???? AM I being unreasonable?? The baby is not even here yet and DH and I have already had a tiny argument about how much time his family is going to be allowed to spend with the baby vs. the amount of time may family will.

Quick morning - have to get to work at a decent time!

Here's my 22w belly pic! I'm exactly 22w today

Have a good one!

Morning ladies,

with last scan (last friday) our boytjie was also in breech position - felt him turn from head down to a head up position earlier last week - was just weird!!! but ya there is still some time for lil one to turn down again.

the 'new' lil monster is sucha busy body compared to my Jadon monster. Jadon only moved when he had hiccups (and that was daily)and it feels as if this one is moving the whole time

Blessed to be Mommy - that is a beautiful pic of you!

Thanks Girly, Sonjat and M2M!

I love having this big pregnant belly, but it puts alot of strain on my back. I had the most awful back pain today, but feeling my LO kick makes it all worth it.

My LG also kicks low - at my last scan she was in the breech position. Girly, my gynae said she should turn from 32 weeks.

She is alot more active in the late afternoons and evenings when im relaxing.

Charnenay - that's a fantastic list - you are very organized. I've started buying some of the toiletries and some of the baby clothes.

I'm flying down to Durban on Thursday - my sister is throwing me a baby shower in the Japanese Gardens - so excited. Was a bit concerned about flying in my 3rd Trimester, but after reading up on it and after my gynae assured me its perfectly fine, I feel alot better.

Hope you all have a lovely relaxing evening!