Ex-Pampers: Muslim Mummys

Salaams everyone

honeylove, here is a link to an istikhaarah dua, you just read it after your 2 rakaats nafl (with the intention of istikhaarah):

www.islamicacademy.org/html/Dua/How_to_do_Istakhara.htm

It looks the same as the one in my dua book. You don't have to have a dream though, my understanding is that you make your istikhaarah and then do whatever you feel is best. And if you don't have the dua with you, just read your 2 rakaats nafl with the intention of istikhaarah and Inshallah it will still have the same effect.

Let us know what you decide

Morning

Shukraan for your input...much appreciated
Nov2010mum to my knowledge you can only claim maternity benefits (uif) if you are employed or if you were retrenched...Am I incorrect?
Firefly & Nov2010mum SHUKRAAN! I couldnt have put it better myself...definity going to ask Allah for guidence.
Anyone have a istikhaarah salaah duaa for me to recite?

Nov2010mum I live in peacock close just next to pelican park...we should hook up sometime

Salaams Ladies

Lol Nov2010 - I must have completely misunderstood you!

Honey - I think that if you stay with your current job you're going to spend your entire pregnancy stressed and when you do go on maternity leave it will probably be tainted with the knowledge that you have to go back to a job you hate. Hopefully during maternity leave you will have an opportunity to look for another job and go for interviews etc...
And if you're concerned about the extra cash, maybe start putting a little bit away each month from now to be used only when you're at the end of your maternity leave and looking for a job.

At the end of the day, my advice would be to make istikhaarah and then do whatever you feel is best - somehow asking for guidance from Allah before I make a decision always puts me so much more at ease with the decision that I have taken - coz I have faith that He would not guide me wrong.

Suraya, I don't think what you're saying is strange at all. I don't have any personal experience but I was recently contemplating that although I think I'd like to be a SAHM, I think I might go crazy if I had no adult interaction during the day for days on end. I think I'd probably have to do stuff like go for classes/talks etc...And chat on moomie so that I can speak to adults

But maybe you should find something with flexi-hours and try it out to see how you feel? You might feel that being away from your lo for a few hours a day makes you a much better mom the rest of the time!

RaziaP, my weekends are booked up for the foreseeable future with weddings and functions... (I thought May was off-peak wedding season - but it doesn't seems so!) and then there's the soccer, so I don't think I'll be able to make a meet anytime soon. But if the other JHB moms are around you guys should totally go for it

LOL, Nooooo Firefly, the exact opposite! We cannot wait to meet the little bugger

Honeylove I'm from Strandfontein....I think it's southern suburbs? Is it? LOL

Honeylove, Why won't you be able to claim UIF while on maternity leave if u leave ur company?

To me it sounds as if you've already answered ur own question LOL
You might as well leave - because like you said, u won't have to make another company wait should the opportunity arise and why wait till after ur maternity leave when ull be on unpaid leave either way?
Am I understanding this correctly? LOL

XXX

Morning all!

Im sooo tired today, had a nice laid back weekend...

How are all of you?

Im hating my job...I have a question...I can either resign along with my maternity leave or come back in the new year (I get 4 months unpaid leave). Thing is I cant decide??? HELP please. I need to give 2 months notice at this place so looking for another job while working here is totally impossible I mean what other company going to wait 2 months for an office admin? Im so used to having my own moola and being at work that Im concerned that if I dont find another job by the time I would like to get back to work (in the new year)...Help ladies...I wont be able to claim maternity benefits (uif)...which possible could assist me while Im on maternity leave...but again I will still be stuck with the 2 months notice period once I get back.

Does this make any sense to anybody that reads this.

right back at you.
Its so nice to chat again ...I was missing you

u better or else...