Feb-May 2011 Mommies

ClairC - yip will look into that, but need to get this sorted out - it's more the doctors actually than the medical aid and that bleddie receptionist is so rude - but I'm gonna phone her every day until she can give me answers.

OK ladies sorry - nothing baby related but I need some advice. This girl inbox me on FB - saying that she really loves my work etc. etc. and that she just finished studying and that she would like to learn from me and whether I've got a job for her. So I told her that I don't need anyone currently, but would be happy for her to come along when I do a wedding. Also told her I'm working from home etc. I told her to look at work she likes and to do free shoots for family and friends to build a portfolio and to practice (that's what I did). So then she inbox back, it's OK, can she just come and shadow me while I do studio shoots so she can see what I'm doing, learning from me so she can do the same type of photography and that she does not want to go along on weddings - only want to learn re the babies / family in studio. I'm I the only one that think this is wrong?? It's taken me 3 years to get where I am and must I now just let every girl who wants to do photography come and shadow me and then go do her own thing - and she is in JHB...........I studied photography - but I had to teach myself how to actually pose families and newborns etc.

Hi ladies,

Hope all you preggy faries are doing o.k

I haven't caught up much I still wanna go back and see what's Kimika's hassle with the MA but I quickly wanted to post this:

CathM- I have a very good Pead, he was actually recommended to me by someone in PMB and she was gutted he was moving up to JHB, but basically he was more than happy for me to bring Alex home at just 2kg when he was discharged with me after the regular 3 night post C-sec stay. He told me BF is the BEST thing and not to confuse him in the first 2 weeks with a bottle but to rather just BF every 3hrs at the most, no longer during the day but at night to let him go 4hrs if he wanted to. So I don't see why the Pead should be bullying you into top up feeds when your boy is a nice healthy 2.7kg basically. If you really are worried about his weight Madela do this thing called a supplementry feeding system where you tape a minute tube to your nipple and it is connected to a bottle of formula then as baby sucks from the breast he sucks in a little formula too without having to take a bottle. My Pead suggested it to me and my SIL actually has one so I borrowed it. If you think you might wanrt to look into that let me know because I'm going to be selling it off with the other baby stuff.

Cute pics of the birth, William is gorgeous! You look so happy

Joli- gorgeous Pic, Callum looks big against Megan

Meags - thank you for posting the messages about Kaylae, still so devastating! Bling sounds like a real character and is so clever I am sure m will stay until your DH gets back. My dh is going to Zambia for a couple of days soon so I really understand.

Fawhaway - I hope that you get your divorce finalised soon. keep strong for your boys.

Betty - good luck with appointment today.

Joli - good grief about the MA - its enough to pull your hair out. I did suggest gap cover - maybe look into it?

Rakker - sorry about 4d. get better.

My mom just called me to say that a pink envelope arrived at home this morning. It has hand drawn hearts on it and a single rose bud. I told my mom to please put it in my cupboard and ill read it when im ready. I think its time that i sat down and wrote that letter i wanted to write to him last year telling him exactly how i feel. I did start it, but it was too painful and i was too angry to continue so left it. And now he has decided to do something about it when its too late and when he knows im very emotional and full of hormones. Sorry about my selffish post yet again. Ill keep it to a minimum from now on because i realise this is a pregnancy forum and not an i hate my husband forum. Lol. Hugs.

Cathm, congrats on the birth of William!! Cant wait to see some pics

Hi girls.
Last night i wrote a very long post but then it got lost. I gave personals to everyone. I don't have time to do that now.. May be tonight if i don't fall asleep.
Hardly slept last night and when i did i dreamt about yw husband. I got a call last night from some guy claiming to be a marriage counsilor. My husband wants us to get help. I said to the guy the marriage is over and im not interested. This is the very short version of it. From what i gathered he is now staying back here, but more than that i don't know and don't care. A leopard doesn't change its spots. And when you have no love, no trust and loads of fear you have no marriage.
The mjc has sent a letter to me stating when i have to appear there and i am waiting for it. I will continue with both divorces. In my dreams last night he was trying to con me to get back together with me and i was resisting it. So my subconsious is telling me what my heart is telling me. And before i decided on the divorce i prayed a lot and asked for guidance so i am not hesistating. I am strong.
Anyway. A few personals that i remember off hand are.. Cathm congrats once again.. You have a cute baby.. Misty im using sunlight baby and i have no problems with the clothes being hard. I used it for my son and handwashed everything last time for the first year, but doubt ill do that again. But have washed all the clothes i have in sunlight baby in the machine with no worries. Schatsie thanks for the encouragement. To joli and kimika hope you come right with the medical aid. Last time i was on gems and i had no problems. This time im not paying and so i won't have medical bill problems. That's all for now. Hugs.

Morning preggie ladies and mommies!

Cath- wow so beautiful, love the pics!
Sounds like everything is going so well considering....

Everyone's birth experience is different and I agree that there is always something that happens that one may not be happy with. With M's birth, I tried to take everything in my stride and accepted the c- section. It was only after the birth that family started to put their 2 c in saying it was unnecessary etc... I am the first in a large family to have had a c- section. Anyhow I am happy with the decision made at the time.

Oh and the nurses! I had some terrible nurses- also struggled to latch baby- they were so unhelpful. Kept telling me to do rugby ball style feeding which was so uncomfortable. I asked for help and they were not able to advise me properly. In the end my nipples were so sore and cracked. I asked for lazier and the nurse scolded me, told me off and asked why I had not fed the baby like she told me to. Anyhow I was so upset about the bad treatment when my gynae came in I was crying- he thought I had the blues and wanted me to
take some depressant pill. Anyhow I never took it, couldn't wait to get out of the hospital. And then found a sister who helped me latch
properly and the feeding went well after that!

After I showered at hospital. I put my own pj's on. It made me feel a lot better than having the hospital gown onxx


Schatsie- when I had M the hospital had everything for baby, the only thing that they wanted me to bring was telemant drops, nipple cream and a dummy. I was adamant that I did not want a dummy so I never took one. Eventually I gave in and gave him one when he was a few months old. I ended up buying so many as he spat them all out- lol

Meags - thanks for Kaylee's MSG. I think of her so Often, can't imagine what she is going through. My mom lost a baby at 5 months and still says it was the worst experience she has ever had in her life. When are the. 2 weeks up so that she can go back to DH?
Glad you have the garden sorted! I too find it difficult to be assertive. But never mind at least you got most of the job done. You could always call him back and tell him you have just noticed that he forgot to put the soul in.

Joli - your photos are really magnificent. I wish you were in Cape
Town....

Anje- I used the sunlight baby washing powder and also the staysoft baby. I used it religiously until m was about 2 years. I also bought these paper things for the tumble drier which I used for the frirst couple of months.

Got my visit with my gynae today. Check blood pressure, urine and weight.....the usual. DH always has some comment when I get to the scale urg!