M/C..dealing with the Loss of our unborn angels...

BD, i know this may sound strange, but it does get easier... As they say time heals everything...

And it is SOOOOOOOOOOOO frustrating struggling to fall pregnant after a loss. Patience is a virtue... Just gotta be patient....

But yes, you are right, one day we will have the babies we've always wanted...

BD, I had 2 MC's and after the first I was ok, because it happens, but after the second I blamed myself for it, I thought that maybe it was something I ate or did or didn't do. I resigned at work and got another job, I started to gym, I ate healthy foods etc. etc. and approximately 8 months later my hubby said we should try again, but he insisted on seeing a specialist, we went to Dr. Pentz (a fertility specialist), who said 2 MC's is normal, that 1 in 4 woman have 2 MC's before a successful pregnancy, BUT he will help us. He did a scan, said that I wasn't ovulating, did a couple of tests and we went the fertomid route.

It worked first time round, we went for our first scan at 8 weeks and that afternoon I started with the bleeding, phoned him immediately and he did another scan and an internal check and confirmed a threatened miscarriage (I was devastated), he prescribed 6 utrogestan (progesterone) pills a day and that seemed to do the trick, it was however still stressful for us every single day until approximately 16 weeks and even some days afterwards. I am now 35 weeks and I believe Dr Pentz was sent on our path for a reason, because I had the same pills with the previous MC's in a lower dosage.

But looking back, I realise that my life was just too hectic for a baby at that stage and I believe that everything happens for a reason. This baby is here at the right time and not to make this a religious thing, but I believe prayer carried me through the first 16 - 20 weeks. As a friend said the other day, there were so many people praying for this baby that my guardian angel was praying for a break.

I think the most important is not too blame yourself and do not hold your feelings in, I did that and it made me a constantly angry and unapproachable person. Cry and shout when you need to. My husband was very supportive and that helped a lot.

Good luck with your journey, I am sure you will have your success story as well and don’t give up.

Harley,Tanz,Cornel..I'm sorry about ur loss ladies...n I know trying to get pregnant again can b a stress especially wen its takin too long..but dnt lose hope it will happen,if u just reax...n dats the hard part..
N thanks for teln me abt the D&C thread ladies ,yes I did hv one n I'll check it out some tym..
This can all get so frustrating but I hope n pray we'll al b blessed one day ,sustain it n hold our babies in our arms

BD,I also had 3 mc.....and stil no baby......
I'm so sorry,i know how hurtfull this experience is.......

blackdiamond, my friend. I had a mc end November. Its been one of the worst things I have ever had to deal with.

But Claire really has been an inspiration to all of us on the ttc thread.

Dont lose hope. Sounds stupid coming from someone who hasnt made peace with her own mc, but I do believe it. My prayers are with you! X

BlackDiamond, when i read stories such as yours my heart truely aches for the ladies that have suffered multiple losses.....

However, i can relate to your pain and suffering, i lost my little boy at 20 weeks pregnant in August 2009 and im still trying to fall pregnant... The heart ache we have to deal with is SO unbearable and i still have my days when i cry myself to sleep... You feel so lost and empty....

Have you had a D&C? As Claire said the thread named Pregnancy after D&C is very supportive, i dont chat there much, only n the TTC thread..

Mourn your loss for as long as you want...

Big hugs and kisses to you x x x x

Thank you for opening this thread

Thank u Strikkie..I apreciate all the support I can get