TRYING FOR 2015 BABY

Meisiekind!! You have to be more careful!! Glad you didn't hurt yourself too bad but still. These 3 weeks off are meant for you to be waited on hand and foot!

Fairychild I agree, talk to gynae about it and don't feel nervous about seeing a new one. It will all go well! Not all of them are quacks...

Hope you ladies have an awesome weekend! Am thinking of going out dancing tonight!

xx

Hi ladies,

I've got my answer, but it is not the one I wanted. Af arrived.
This is the longest cycle I've had in many years.

@Jay-bee. I had a positive OPK on CD13. After a lot of googling I'm wondering if it weren't perhaps an anovulatory month. Very unusual. Got an appointment with gynae end of Feb for my annual service. Will ask her about it. Already nervous as this is a new gynae.

About the fun topics: I would almost prefer first 6 months of year because of school, but I'm not truely worried about that. I guess there are pros and cons for all times of the year. Uncomfortable to be heavily pregnant in summer, but babs will always need to have indoor b-day parties in winter.
I also read about the whole boy/girl thing with doing bd closer to BO if you want a boy. That sounds far to complicated to me. There is already so few fertile days available in a month that I wouldn't want to make the chances even smaller.
I also think it might take the fun out of bd and turn it into a military operation

That's my pleasure, ladies. Glad I could be of help.

This is quite a fun thread. Good way to keep everyone's spirits up while we're all waiting to see those 2 lines. May 2015 truly be the year that each one of us get to experience that.

And thanks for asking how its going. Doing better every day, however I realised that going back to work on Monday is not going to happen. Doc booked me off for 3 weeks, so looks like he's right about the time needed heal. I have to confess, I did something stupid today - took out the trash and hurt myself a little in the process. Not too bad though, however I'll be a little more careful for another couple of days.

lillyr, if the OPK is negative now then either ov has already happened, or its still too early. Unfortunately there is just no way for us to know. Hence why BD'ing for another couple of days would be best.

One more thing, quite a number of people and doctors recommend BD'ing every 2nd day, instead of daily, as it gives more time for hubby's swimmers to replenish. They can last 2 - 3 days in your body, so in theory it should work. And perhaps 2 days in a row if you are sure that you're about to ov. Just mentioning it - given that we haven't had success yet, I can't say for sure that it works.

Have a fabulous weekend ladies!

Hi all

Just want to say that I am very grateful for this thread and chatting to all of you. It is so comforting knowing that we are on the same path ttc and having someone to chat to who knows what you are feeling and going through is wonderful. I am learning so much along the way and believe that we will all be getting our BFP this year

Thank you ladies and enjoy the weekend!

thanks so much Meisiekind..i totally love your essays. It makes so much sense. I even saved the pic, will keep on referring to it.Very helpful.

you could be right, i will use the OPK to check if i will pick the LH. Am i right in saying if its negative that will mean what i felt was OV? LH drops at ovulation right? Well my plan is to use OPK till the day i am supposed to BO, and will BD everyday to hopefully get my fast swimmers throuhg..LOL

thanks so much..ur essay helps.

and yes, How are you feeling? how's recovery coming along?

Ladies, i am loving our thread. So much i am learning and thanks for the support. Hopefully we will start getting BFPs.

A blessed weeekend ya'll

Thanks for all the info Meisiekind!!

Wow! That explains so much! Don't apologize for writing an 'essay'. It's helpful information that you are sharing. Not a detailed, in depth recipe or something.

How are you feeling by the way?

xx

Jay-Bee, I used OPKs for a while and was able to see positive results that corresponded with my temp chart. However I've now had 2 cycles where I don't see a pos OPK, but my temp chart shows that I ovulated. Could have been faulty batches of tests, I don't know. So now I'm not too keen on using those any more.

The temp charts are accurate to show you if you ov'd, I just wish there was a way to accurately pin point ov before it happens (at home). Allow me a moment to quickly explain the process of events prior to ov.

- First estrogen raises, which can be detected by the saliva test that some people use, however there is no guarantee that the rest of the process will follow (in cases like PCOS, its possible to have more than 1 estrogen raise in a cycle and only the last 1 counts).
- Next the hormone called LH raises to prepare the body for the release of the egg. LH is secrated in your urine, which is what the OPKs try to detect (I'm just wondering, what if your body don't secrate enough LH through urine to trigger the test?). Once LH levels start to raise, it will be 36 hours until ovulation. Problem with OPK testing is that you don't know exactly where you are in the 36 hours, so general rule of thumb is to expect ovulation within 12 - 36 hours after seeing the first positive OPK.
- Once the egg is released, your BBT raises (basal body temp, e.g. temp when you first wake up) due to a progestrone raise. Fertilisation of the egg needs to happen within 24 hours after being released, or you've missed the boat (keeping in mind that sperm has a longer life time, so BD from 2 - 3 days before could also still have an impact). Progestrone will stay high throughout your pregnancy if its BFP, or drop a day or 2 before AF arrives.

I'll attach a nice image I found to show you how the different hormones operate in relation to temp readings. It really helped me a lot to understand what is happening and not get myself in knot each time something unexpected happens. Knowledge helps you stay sane.

@Lillyr, so the above in part answers your question re timing of BD and the pang you felt this morning. Its definitely possible that ov was earlier and you'll have 24 hours max afterwards to BD (the earlier the better, so make this evening count ). However its also possible that the pang was something else (I get similar pangs from my colon around ov time due to estrogen having an impact on my IBS issue). If you did temping, you'd know over the course of the next 2 - 3 days if your temp is elevated and that would confirm it. Seeing that you don't have any data to go on yet, I'd say just BD every 2nd day until after the day you normally ov, starting tonight. That way I'm sure you stand a good chance this cycle.

As for your question on birth month, I'm with Morgan on that one. The longer it takes to get a BFP, the less you care about which month of the year. At first I never wanted my kids to have their birthdays in the same month, but now I feel that if it happens that way, then we'll just make the most of it and have one massive party every year.

And re gender "selection", apparently if you BD very close to OV, its more likely to have a boy because male sperm swims faster, however if you BD'd the day before OV, the female sperm had time to also catch up and the male sperm have deteriorated in quality already, making it more likely to have a girl. Honestly, I don't know if it works that way and I'm in no posision to be picky, so I won't be trying it.

@Beehen, wrt taking your temperature in Fahrenheit, it doesn't matter if its F or C, as long as you keep on using the same unit of measure.

My apologies for writing yet another essay. Its what happens when you're sitting around at home, recovering from a lap, and not having anything fun to do (you can only watch so much TV in one day). If it helps to reduce the TTC stress for even 1 lady, then I'd be very happy.