Trying for a 2016 baby

@Anzel - Well that's nice that they do that! Do a bit of research on what the Bible says about it/infertility, maybe look at options so that it if u do the IVF you can do it in the most ethical way possible and yes, pray about it. God will give you your answers if you ask for His help. We have a very religious couple in our town that went for IVF and they have been blessed with a healthy baby! If you belong to a church/group perhaps try and consult elders about it, bearing in mind that they could be very against new age fertility assistance. I will read up a bit and see what i can find for you and hubby to go through.

@Chanti - Our FS provides the option of freezing the embryos that you don't use at the time, for future use. So that is much better than just getting rid of the tiny tiny tiny babies. We are religious and that's one of the main reasons hubby is against IVF. I personally would give it a try, but you know how it goes. Both of us must decide together to do IVF and both of us carry the consequence of failure/success. So no, I'm not offended, that's some of the things that has gone through my mind as well.

I might be shaking the boat a bit, but it's funny how some people judge couples that go for assisted fertilization. Maybe I'm just negative at this stage, but I feel that some people need all the help they can get. In our case, we have double problems - Hubby's and mine. I know everything is possible with God and that He has a plan. Yet, I am a bit impatient. lol! It's wrong to be so impatient, I know... But it's hard to remain patient after so long...

@Anzel - I actually think I would go for the IUI and if it doesn't work then possibly consider saving for IVF. The only problem I have with IVF is how many eggs they fertilise and choose the best and basically kill off the rest. To me its the same as abortion as you are ending a life that you had no right to end.. (PERSONAL OPINION) otherwise I don't find anything wrong with assisted fertilisation. If you and DH are religious then google a bit on IVF and Christianity, some pretty comforting info that comes up Women have been struggling with infertility for years and years and there is nothing wrong with getting help. Hope I dont offend!

If we decide not to go for IUI and rather opt for the IVF route, we only have one chance (hubby won't spend that kind of money twice, if you know what I mean). And this chance will have to be next year December, when we are in holiday in PE for two weeks. That's the only chance we have to do IVF while we are on holiday for two weeks. So we'll see what happens. He would rather use that money to put in a pool at our house, than go for IVF. He actually had an argument with our FS when FS suggested IVF. LOL! Was so funny. FS defended himself very well.

@Chanti - The costs of the IUI is much cheaper than IVF. Our FS charges R3300 for the IUI procedure, which includes the scans, washing sperm and inserting. It excludes blood tests prior to IUI, medication and trigger shots. And because my FS is in PE, I'll have to do my Day 3 scans here in Upington, which is additional to the R3300. IVF is in excess of R30k, and excludes meds and bloods. IVF has higher success rate, but it is much more expensive.

Hubby not very keen on IVF. Not only because of the costs, but he feels it is not natural. Our FS actually suggested IVF, to be honest. Because of hubby's morphology problem. The problem we have is that our closest FS is in PE, CT or PTA, which means additional costs of travel and accommodation (and sometimes leave). So it is a difficult decision. Hubby is happy to try IUI, as it gives us about a 40% chance of conceiving (which is good, if you take his morphology and my anovulation into account).

@TanyaS - I read 21 instead of 12!!! oh dear!! Will you and DH have to use protection now or are you just going to pretend you forgot about protection?

@TanyaS - Thanks so much! FX for you too You aren't too far behind me! We all seem to be within a week of each other here.

@Anzel - So good to hear from u hun! Did the doc advise that u go for the IUI? If you don't go in Dec how much longer will you try for? If u skip the IUI will u try for IVF? What are the costs of IUI and IVF at the moment? I read a statistic the other day that most couples get their BFP on their 4th IUI if they are doing IUI