TTC 2012 Group Year of the ball, Year of the bump

I was literally sighing a sigh of relief when I saw I'm not the only one with a low libido.....

Usually I don't have a problem with it....ok scratch that....I think that getting in the mood is one of my biggest problems But once I'm in the mood, I actually do enjoy it - like Tracy said. I think my mind is just telling me what is the use in BD when you are not likely to fall pregnant....but I do know that my husband has needs...don't we all know that....and for the sake of feeling close again, I have to get myself together...

Hi ladies!

Sue : Oooohhh....glad that wild hormone rage is calming down - for your girly bits sake!! But another thing to remember, when we are around ov time, our libido does naturally increase (ok, yours clearly rockets)...so it's normal in that sense.

ALL the other ladies talking about lack-of-libido - SNAP!!!!
I have ZERO...um, wait......BELOW ZERO!!!!!!
To do the dead is a mission (even though I usually end up enjoying it during the deed). I just can't get myself in the mood, ever!!
And with Fertomid drying up your CM, and NO money for PreSeed this month at ALL, I'm in for a rough ride (excuse the pun)....
And no, horny goatweed doesn't work, for anyone out there who hasn't tried it and thinks about trying it....it's a load of pooooooo...
Or maybe just for me it doesn't waork....but anway....I'm rambling now....

Hayley : Glad you feeling better. The cuts get very itchy - wait until the stitches come out.....that was WEIRD!!!
That gas pain is something else allllll on it's own too....
So, Tuesday is the day you get some well needed answers!!
Have you told him about DH's SA he had done....what does he say about it? Can't that also be a factor in this equation??

KLK : I'm sorry to hear about Connor. I too have been down that hospital road tooooo many times - I HATE it!!! So I DO hope he is better now?!

AFM : 3 days left of Fertomid. No side affects YET, so I'm waiting....still have AF on CD7, grrrrrrrrrrr......I HATE my long AF's!!

SexyHexy wrote:

Pass some of the crazy libido or yours to me Sue!!!

2KM...I know taking a break is good...but when we are not intimate, every other aspect of our marriage is under strain...don't know why I think being intimate is just something special, and that glues the puzzle together....something like that...but seriously....I just don't have any incling of even wanting to BD So is TTC maybe a mind thing? You know you want to make a baby so you libido rises?

I hear exactly what you are saying. I also find when my DH and I arn't intimate for sometime our marriage suffers in many different ways so yes it is something that pieces the whole thing together and makes you feel connected again (excuse the pun) But yes, I also think TTC is defintaely a mind thing because when we arnt' TTC I really have to force myself to be intimate otherwise it wouldn't bother me one single bit if we didn't do it at all (I know this sounds bad) But Sex is usually most of the time the very farthest on my mind because in my personality type I kind of fear intimacy and I don't experience love primarily on a physical or sexual level. I did a personality indicator recently and they described me as a Lolipop Tree and this one of the things that stood out for me "Just as a child lollipos don't like sharing their favourite toys, grown up Lollipos don't like giving control of their bodies to anyone else. So yes I do think TTC is a mind thing because for me, it's not "Normal" to have a very high libido but if I have a motive i.e a Baby afterward then I will force myself. This is actually very wrong and I really have to work on myself to not make our intimate relationship just about making babies.

I'm just in a weird place now...don't know why....and my mind doesn't want to get me in the mood. But it will sort itself out....

lol sh i would beg u to take it- im sure my vjj is now broken!

i have always foubd that its got alot to do with the mind. and yes agree with that glue comment

maybe try and think of something that gets you ib the mood or use to and then re-light that fire! sexy undies works for me as it makes you feel great no matter what shape or size!

Pass some of the crazy libido or yours to me Sue!!!

2KM...I know taking a break is good...but when we are not intimate, every other aspect of our marriage is under strain...don't know why I think being intimate is just something special, and that glues the puzzle together....something like that...but seriously....I just don't have any incling of even wanting to BD So is TTC maybe a mind thing? You know you want to make a baby so you libido rises?

morning gals!

hayley glad you getting better

klk sory abt ure boy xx

2km sounds like o still on the way. bd bd bd xx

sh- how you hon?

afm-ff has finally recognized o at cd 16, day after hectic o pains stopped so would make sense.onlyprob is that we didnt bd that day, night before and night after. so hope that will do?! this crazy bd-obsession seems to be wearing off. thank goodness!!!!