Jan & Feb 2010 Mommies

Thank you Juanita - Ek dink net ek het nou 'n laagtepunt bereik - veral nadat ek gedink het dit gaan beter.

Jammer ook dat jou meisiekind siek was!

Think it might be better if dh talks with Reuben. Dont focus too much on the negative, hope it works. Think maybe he sees you are also sad about the whole thing?? Thinking of you. Let us know how it goes.

I know its silly but i tell Leandi every morning before i drop her off where she is going and what she is going to do and when im going to fetch her. Something like : Mamma gaan jou nou by tannie Fransie aflaai, en dan gaan sy vir jou pappies gee, en jy gaan lekker met die maaitjies speel. En as jy wakker word vamiddag dan gaan jy jou groentetjies eet en as jy weer sien is dit tyd vir mamma om jou te kom haal. People must think im insane, when they see me talking in the car!!!!
Read somewhere it helps them understand why we need to go our separate ways for the day. Helps me also as i still suffer from separation anxiety!!

Oh my goodness EP!! What a difficult time for you! You did not "go wrong" - I think this is a seriously sensitive little boy who as Juanita says is going through intense separation anxiety..It's going to take time for him to settle and unfortunately you are going to have to go through the agony of making him sit it out. A good idea that your hubby gets involved.

Thanks Juanita for the good wishes! Very sweet of you to remember. Shame - that must have been rather a traumatic experience with the gastro and having to be admitted! And now hubby...

Juanita, ek sal laat my man vanaand met hom praat. As ek met hom praat huil hy so dat hy nie luister wat ek se nie - al praat ek mooi en kalm.

Ag sjaimpies EP. Cant imagine how sad it must be, and now how angry you are. He is obviously very close to you, and experiencing an extreme case of seperation anxiety. This is why he is "manipulating you"? Jammer, maar ekt ongelukkig nie raad nie.

Ek weet dat toe ek eerste skool toe is het ek ook vreeslik gehuil, maar vir my boetie. Het hom ontsettend baie verlang. Toe sit my pa my een aand neer en praat met my soos 'n groot mens en sê vir my hoekom dit belangrik is dat ek moet skool toe gaan en dat ek nie my boetie altyd nodig het nie en ek weet nie wat nog als nie, maar blykbaar sê my ma het dit die trick gedoen. Ekt nooit weer gehuil nie, en nooit weer my boetie by die skool gepla nie. Dink dit was net 'n vloekskoot maar dalk worth a try???

STERKTE GIRL!!

Update: I went to get him, and he is absolutely fine. Now I am just angry and upset that he would LIE to get out of school. He did not even tell his teacher he is feeling bad, Connor took him to the office even before the bell rang for school to start.

I spoke to the lady in charge and his teacher and they said next time, I must just tell him NO he must stay at school - unless I KNOW he really was not feeling well. He MUST just suffer it out. His teacher is now aware of this and that she must watch him closely for anymor etrouble, so that he may get help NOW before it is too late.

Where did I fail him? What am I doing wrong? WHY is this happening?

I can not take thi sanymore - the school just phoned, Reuben is crying so much it is not worth it him being at school. I must come and get him. His crying is disrupting everything.
So I am just waiting for Danette and Xadriaan to finish their morning snack them I am leaving to get Reuben. I am DONE I am SO FREAKING DONE I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know how to deal with this.