Jan & Feb 2010 Mommies

EP - shame girl im thinking off you and R. give it a month or so and see if it improves and then maybe try home schooling him. I dont really know how that is going to help in the long run.

Ill ask my friends mom who is a terapist what she thinks when I see her and let you know. shame man. put on your brave face. maybe ask your kids to spend break time with him and a friend for the first couple of weeks maybe that will improve.

Juno my new job is great im very busy and my work is never even half way finished. the only bad thing is my moomie time is limited to saying hi to you guys.

Lorelai does not eat that well, she only eats egg, patato, toast and meat. veggies she'll only eat if it is mixed with patato.

I want to put both my girls in Chesterhouse in durbanville, but the only thing stoping me is the R12500 development levy that needs to be paid.

Ahhh weekend....

I am worried about Reuben. He has been crying everyday at school. He is now in Gr1.

He's been to Grade R, last year,but just for 3/4 the year - as the teacher had numerous trouble. He was not naughty but she could not leave him for 5 minutes or he'll cry. It was determined that he just was not emotionally mature enough for school. However, because he turns 7 this year, we are forced to put him in Gr 1 because of the law He MUST go to Gr 1 even if he is the youngest in his class (he will only be 7 in Dec). We tried everything to let him be home this year and start Gr 1 next year but to no avail. Micayla sms'ed me during break yesterday, Reuben was still crying. I can not do this, I am crying here myself. I don't know what to do. Dh feels he must get over it. I spoke to his teacher (very nice woman, just had a baby herself) and she agrees that it will be hard at first but he will adjust. He had 8 months last year (Gr R) to adjust but didn't.

We did speak to the school, and they are adamant that he attends gr 1 this year. He MUST adjust - I know it. I guess I am just taking harder with him, than I did with the others cause he is just such a shy child.

He is school ready intelectually, it is emotionally where the trouble starts.


It is important to me that he attends this spesific school for various reasons:
It is semi private (1/2 goverment subsidized, 1/2 parental if that makes sense), close to home (a block to be precise), Micayla and Connor is there too,
I went there myself as did my dad, uncles, aunts, sister, cousins....
They are also helping us out with the school fees, so we pay a bit less, cause by next year we'll have 4 kids attending that school, the year after (2013) there will be 5.

will speak to hi steacher again thi safternoon. I have a friend who has a child that is also in Gr 1, and Reuben and this boy always play well together when they visit. Unfortunately this child is not in Reuben's class. His teacher said she'll look for this child today, and him play with Reuben during break time - I told her in which class the child is, so hopefully today will be better.

We've also been told last year, that play therapy or some sort of therapy won't improve his shyness, as generally he is perceived to have TRUST issues. He only trusts a handful of people and only feels safe with them, this worries me, he has to form bonds with other people too and I don't know how to achieve this. I don't know how to make the adjustment any easier (for ALL of us). I sit here at home and worry and fret about Reuben till 13h00. I can't do this. Last year I shook me so hard and now I (we) have to do it all over again - I just feel so helpless. Powerless. I feel so bad, as I can't swoop in and "rescue" him even if I want to do just that with my whole being, my whole exsistense wants to "save" him. I can 't stop crying and I knwo that does not help. I do put up a brave face but soon as he is out the door... Maybe it is wrong, but Reuben and I have a VERY strong bond, maybe cause I almost lost him when he was born, but he is very dependant on me. I don't LOVE him MORE than I do my other kids, we are just closer. No that is the wrong word choice. He needs me more than the other kids do...Maybe I am the one needing therapy

Charlotte how's the job going by the way? Sounds like Lorelai takes after mom in frame =) I don't think be too concerned - as long as she's eating well. I'm finding out how much Liam weighs next week - he was 10kg at 9 months so should be interesting.

Although we've chatted about schools I had no idea that registration was so early for some schools!! One thing I know for sure and that is he's not going to a private school so I don't think I should have too many hassles. Though I will phone the school we're planning on sending him too just to make sure!

We're having a family get together on Sun to celebrate Liam's b'day which is on Wed 19 Jan (Zodwa see he shares a b'day with you). Going to Warwick wine farm for a picnic. Very small. Love the farm - they have what they call "pods" which are these platforms over the shores of a lake -cushions are scattered on the platforms where you can loll about, very child friendy etc. etc.

Have a great weekend..

Charlotte: yep your babies weight is perfect buhle has always been big she was born big in any way hoping that it will stabilise

Zodwa yay on mom visiting.

I also could not see the pics

I wonder where the other mummies are and how their lil ones are doing.


have you started planning parties im keeping mine small

take care ladies

YOZA - SHE IS SO BIG, LORELAI ONLY WEIGHS 9.6KG. IS THAT NORMAL ANYONE?

YES I ALSO WANT A MEET... THERE IS ONE HAPPING IF YOU CHECK THE LADIES CORNER. WE DECIDED TO DO IT EVERY SECOND MONTH.

JUANITA - THE PRIVATE SCHOOLS HAVE VERY LONG WAITING LIST IF I WANTED TO PUT AMANDALYNN IN CHESTERHOUSE AT AGE 3 (THATS WHEN THERE SCHOOLING START) I HAVE TO REGISTER HER BEFORE HER 1ST BIRTHDAY TO ENSURE SPACE. BUT DECIDED THAT I WILL PUT HER IN A NORMAL CHRECHE AND DECIDE THIS YEAR (PRE- PRE PRIMARY YEAR) IF SHE IS GOIGN TO PUBLIC OR PRIVATE SCHOOL

THRY GATES THAT CLOSE BY THEMSELVES, I HAVE THOSE IN MY HOUSE, AS AMANDALYNN DOE SNOT REMEMBER TO CLOSE THEM. THEY WORK LIKE A CHARM.

ZODWA - SO HAPPY YOUR MOM IS COMING TO VISIT YOU.

HI MOMS

I FEEL LIKE I HAVE MISSED EVERYTHING. SO BUSY AT WORK CANT EVEN FIND TIME TO SMOKE LET ALONE MOOMIE. BUT IM MAKING TIME.

SHAKIRA - HOW CUTE... STILL CANT BELIEVE MUNEEB SAT STILL FOR THE HAIRCUT [MY WORK BLOCKS THE PICS SO i CAN EVEN SEE ]. DONT WORRY LORELAI LIKES SHARING HER FOOD WITH THE FLOOR. LOL

EP - SHAME GIRL. YOUR HOUSE MUST FEEL EMPTY. YOU'LL BE OKAY AND THEY WILL BE. SORRY THAT IT IS A DIFFICULT TIME FOR YOU. BUT YOU STRONG AND I BELIEVE YOU WILL GET BETTER EACH YEAR. STOP SHOOTING IN ALL PROVINCES AND NOT MINE. ITS TIME FOR YOU TO COME AND VISIT ME DAMMIT.