Feeling alone in my pregnancy

I do Antz08 feel you read our post out of content...

Everyone experience pregancy differentely - have you ever watched
what to expect when your expecting well some find a glow some others
feel emotionally not so nice. Nobody is wrong nobody is right and
we need to sometimes not judge so quickly and realise that we all can experience the same situation differently. We need to respect one another and say okay I might not agree to what you are feeling but I give you the space to feel it. We all are different.

I love my pregnancy and the trying to conceive thread well if you have read it you would have noticed I too was once part of it.... I have PCOS. This forum is to share our ups but also our downs and we are allowed to sometimes feel not so lekker.
Because one do feel that you should always be happy and glowing and beautiful when your pregnant and it is heart warming to know that other ladies sometimes feel the same which essence makes us normal lol I think..

no one was moaning just asking if anyone ever felt a little alone or down - and we just made her feel at ease as we all have! Hell even when not pregnant I get down days..

Joans en MommyMe, julle gaan nog sien, 'n baba is actually 'n uitstekende stukkie "gereedskap" om mense te vermy. As mense kom kuier en jy raak bietjie gatvol, dan vat jy jou babatjie en sê" skuus, ek dink dis tyd om te borsvoed". En verdwyn dan in 'n kamer in vir 'n halfuur. Hahah! Ek sê maar net, dit werk "both ways"

Like i said - i do apologise for my rant... I think you might have taken it the wrong way.

I have two beautiful little girsl, and am thankful for friends who went through our pregnancies together... and i am sad too to have lost certain friends as our circumstances were just too different. They dont adapt and like one of the other ladies said - you are so bushed that you want to be in bed by 9...

We also got married (at 27) and a MONTH later we were pregnant... It was surreal! But wouldnt change it for the world hey... my best friend and i (my hubby) shared in our experience together, even if he didnt necessarily experience all the symptoms... But thats a story for another day.

Maar ek hoop julle kry die ondersteuning wat julle duidelik nodig het. Ek was net verbaas want soos julle kan sien, was dit die eerste post op die forum van so n aard.

Sterkte en ek hoop julle almal het n maklike swangerskap met die geboorte van jou keuse!

All the best ladies!

Hi Joans,dis baie oulik van hom, dit help baie dat hulle mens so ondersteun en soms net probeer verstaan al sal hulle nooit kan voel wat ons voel nie.

Dis wonderlik. Dis n mooi kerk ook. Exciting tye en goedjies.

Ja nee ek moet se, ek was nog nooit 'n roker nie en die 2de handse rook kan mens nogal laat "muf" voel. so ek vermy dit ook as ek weet dit gaan so iets wees. Ons doen ook maar die braai en rustige ding. Glad nie meer lus vir daai uitgaan na die braai storie nie. In daai opsig is ons lewens op heel ander vlak seker maar net.

Die dag is vreeslik lank alklaar.

xx

Hi MommyMe,

janee, sommige dae wil ek ook maarnet huil en frozen yoghurt eet hahahaha. Hubby hou maar stock van chocolates in sy kar vir sulke dae om my op te cheer

Ek weet wat jy se oor die dans ding. Ek kuier ook nogsteeds, maar na een van die 'usual' aande met my vriendekring het ek omtrent die volgende dag gevoel of ek 'n nikotien hangover het van net die tweede handse rook, so toe besluit ek maar ek sal eerder die meer chilled braai hier en daar bywoon, want dan hoef ek nie so baie van die tweedehanse rook in te kry nie.

Playdates klink goed My pa is dominee by NG helderberg en ek is ook nogals opgewonde om daar betrokke te raak, my pa se hulle het vreeslik baie jong couples en jong ouers daar, soveel so dat hulle 'n massiewe nuwe jeug setrum gaan bou vir die kids, so ek sien uit na dit! Hoop jy voel gou beter

Joans , wow, het ek nie soos jy gister gevoel nie. I was in total mess emotionally and just wanted to cry and burst out in tears. Its hormones and some people think you are just overreacting or being more sensitive now that you are pregnant, well DUH you are more sensitive, its the way our bodies work.

I was also never on the party scene, but I must say, I do however sometimes feel like just letting go and be "wild" as I love dancing. So that is prob the part I miss the most. But don't get me wrong, im not saying I would rather dance the night away than being pregnant, because that is also just one night against so much of having a little baby to love and cuddle. Sat night was a quick jive on the dance floor and I was exhausted

And I most def think that you should get support, not only from your friends and family, but other mommies to be in the same situation. That's why we are here, to support each other in the best way possible.

Joans, once you move to S-West, we can most def meet up and have some play dates. We also have a group of friends who is most def perhaps 5 to more years away of kids and still on the High-school party scene. But I adore them just the way they are and they respect our decision and change in lifestyle.

Hi ladies

I was reading through the posts and I felt quite weird, thinking that I was dancing on Saturday night, being 17 weeks pregnant (and yes quite big by now) and having fun soberly. The nice thing is that even though a lot of people there (being a big function) did not have kids yet or are not even close to getting married, was so supportive and kept on "looking" after me.

What I want to say today is, as Swartkat mentioned, go out and live your lives. go to the social stuff, but if you feel tired or not up to it anymore, greet everyone and leave. At least they understand that you are preggies and im sure hubby will know its in the best interest of baby that you want some rest. I try to balance our social life. if we have to be somewhere early the next morning, we will either just pop in the night before or not attend. But I do also understand that hubby wants to have a braai and kuier with his brother or with our friends, so then we will go. But not every weekend Friday and Sat.

I also got married last year and 4 months after find out we were having twins, even more to worry about if you think about it. But once you see those 2 little miracles growing, you just realised how blessed you are and that everything happens for a reason. Im 28 as well. you grow up with your kids. Unfortunately we lost the twins and are pregnant again and I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. (being pregnant so soon I mean). Missing the girls terribly still.

So for the ladies that feels isolated, I know what you mean, you do get those days when you feel a bit envious of the people eating sushi or doing something you cant, but in the end you have something so amazing that nothing of that matters anymore.

And you will soon see, once baby is there, a lot of your friends will become "broeis" lol.