Ash - We can relate, we have a similar situation, just not as far and not as long. We moved to Cape Town 3 years ago and hubby's family followed within a year. My family have lives and jobs etc and stayed in pretoria. So in December I LOVE going and hubby feels like its no longer part of him. Me on the other hand have my mom, my sister, all my friends and 30 years of my life there, so I take my son and we go for 2 weeks before my hubby joins us for a week. Like I said, i know its not as far, or as long, but I also get looks from some of the family and friends (here and there), like hubby and I are having relationship trouble cause we are not holidaying together and I get so irratated!! But anyway, over the last 3 years, most seem to have gotten used to the idea and I plan to do it again this year, with baba and maybe for longer too. Last year was bad though, cos I flew out of the house in such a hurry to catch our flight, that I ended up leaving the house without my wedding ring, 2 weeks in pretoria with my son, no wedding ring and a new baby in my tummy definately got some tongues wagging (so my mom says)