Feb-May 2011 Mommies

Anje - Glad everything is going well for you

Misty Mom - Woohoo on the new car - What did you get? Must be a relief having your wheels back again.

Meags - I hope your DH does stop smoking, It would be very inconsiderate if he didnt. But now would be a good time, not when the baby is born.
There are 2 things that really make my blood boil, and thats Kids that aren't in car seats ( worst of all , standing between the front seats) and parents that smoke around their children.
I hope you get some answers soon about where you'll be giving birth. Its nice to know your plan of action well in advance.

fawhaway - Sorry to hear about the spotting, but glad all is well with your baby. i hope you find a job soon, it will be hard when you start to show.

Hi girls. I been so stressed. Started spotting today and went to er at groote schuur. Had a scan at last. Baby well. Was swimming and heart was beating. Bleeding stopped. My uterus tilting backwards and am in pain as a result. Bed rest for me. Edd changed to 18 march. Im 11weeks 5 days at the moment according to the scan. On tuesday going for my 12 week scan. Misty my internet access is very limited or i would apply online. Gotta use the newspaper for now. hugs.

Hi ladies

sorry Kimika I actually did want to reply before - I think it was you asking if we really have to immigrate?

well the short answer is....yes.
DH is with a french company and came to South Africa on contract and he works as an expat. So until we decide we want to settle somewhere, we will keep moving around every 2-3 years.
The pro's of us being expats:

- R12 000 to rent a house per month
- R9000 living allowance per month
- 20% extra on Dh's salary per month
- company car, cell phone and laptop
- They assist with all visa's, schooling of kids etc
- 3 return trips to Europe per year (for him - we use this for him and I and just pay for the return trip for me on the second visit)

con's:
- we basically need to go where ever they send us
- We have to pack and move every few years, leaving behind friends and family
- kids need to move schools (we will likely settle somewhere once kids are school age)
- immigration dates are not concrete and we just sit and wait to be told when to go

Miami is DEFINITELY by far the best choice for now. Before they wanted to send us to Dunkirk in France (cold, pensioners, no life), Ivory Coast (malaria area, poor western african country, unsafe) and Miami. So...we need to go to Miami!!!!!

And that's my explanation

Ange So happy to hear about your scan!!!!!!!!!! It sounds like it was such a cute and special scan to have 8 days until mine and it cant come sooner!

I am actually jealous of my friend who had her baby!!! I feel so impatient

As for what DH said....he said nothing!!!!! We went for lunch and sat in the smoking area ok fine it was outside, but I really crapped out DH and said he could just go there to smoke and leave me in a safer environment...he is so selfish.
He says he'll stop smoking once baby is born. I said the following
"If you have not stopped smoking, I will sleep in the nursery with the baby because I don't want to just sit up for an hour every feed when I could be lying down sleeping. But the baby cant sleep in our bed if you are still smoking because cot death is increased by 40% if either parent smokes".

He just looked and me and said he'll stop smoking. I bet he wont.....
and just to say...I'm not really sure it is increased 40%...but I needed it to sound DRASTIC

Afternoon Girls

Well I can safely say the MS has hit. Have felt naseaus all weekend, but have not thrown up! Sorry TMI. DH has been feeding me in bed before i get up. Just hope it does not last long.

We got my folks coming for lunch shortly...luckily DH is doing the cooking!

Also got my new car on Friday, so its nice to have wheels again. Was stuck in traffic Friday afternoon coming home. Was quit funny as was excietd about car, but had a horrible urge to vomit in it! LOL luckily made it home.

Sorry no peronals today.

Enjoy the rest of your weelend!

Good morning girls

Wow just bathed all 3 staffies!! Shooo!! My little guy is sleeping now and Im about to start my lasagne (yep, almost no correct eating the whole weekend!! ) Then when he wakes up I want to do some photies of him and the dogs. Ill post some for you I really loooove my staffies!!

Meags, glad you had a good day yesterday. Those outings can be soooo exhausting hey! So what did hubby say about being more involved in the pregnancy and baby?? Let us know what his boss replies. Will it be very dissapointing if you guys cant go to Miami anymore?? According to the amount of !!!!! you put in I assume you really want to go badly

Hi Anje!!! Wow so you really had an awesome scan So happy for you! Its so true that you are so far along already and seeing baby happy and bouncing around really does mean you can start to relax and see this pregnancy and baby as a positive and healthy experience!! Dont stay away anymore please Ill add your next appointment date to our list.

How are all the other preggie fairies doing?

Hi girls, just quickly want to give an update.

My scan went really well, baby was in upright position and then turned into a horizontal position and oh my word, then the show started. Legs and arms went crazy. It was AWESOME !! I am absolutely positive that this baby will be 100 % and am totally relaxed now.

So Hbuzz, I think it is ok if you have a couple of days without any symptoms, off course everyone is different, but in my case it was ok and I am not stressing about symptoms any more.

Enjoy your Sunday ladies, I have another appointment with gyne on the 15th (12weeks) and if all goes well, I will join you ladies more often.

Enjoy your pancakes EmsMom!!
I am jealous - just LOVE pancakes!!!

I am so sad I missed out on the meeting Definitely have to make the next one.
So my friend had her baby yesterday!!!!!! Her waters broke at 3am, she went to hospital at 4am and was expecting to be 4-5cm dilated but was found to only be 1cm which really upset her. She thought that the regular braxton hicks the day before would have dilated her I dunno why she thought that though!!!! she knows they are not proper contractions.

Anyway, by 12pm there was no progress, she she went for a caesar and her little baby weighs 2.88kg and is a real shorty at 44cm!!!! I think she is a little sad as he isnt big at all and she really wanted natural. But on the other hand, she has her full maternity leave with baby now and wow he is such a cutie!!!!!!

I was at Joburg day yesterday. It was flippin hot and we wouldnt find the friends we were suppose to meet so we spent about an hour and a half walking in the blazing heat looking for them. eventually I wanted to faint and felt so awful. and 10 minutes later found them (thank God).
It was a great day but by the evening it was FREEZING and we were all a bit burnt and by 9:30pm I was quite happy to go home!!!

so 11 weeks today. had a heart to heart with DH yesterday about the baby and his dis-interest in it...so will see if things improve. on a better note, he FINALLY emailed his boss to say I'm pregnant and that we need a bit more details on when the move will be and their opinion on what will be easiest visa-wise with regards to having the baby here or there. so really hope he responds soon. I have a feeling I will be giving birth there which disappoints me...But I'll deal with it.
And last night I had a dream his boss said it's too complicated now that I'm pregnant so we cant go to Miami anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!