Confinement period

I am the same with my family, but Christiaan is an old softie, he doesn't like confrontation so it's hard for him to convey his wishes to his family. He finds it hard to communicate with them as they are not very close and he doesn't want to offend them. His parents find it hard to see him as a man and not still as the child they once knew, I feel that it's his place to deal with his family. I hope to never be that type of parent who cannot let her child lead their own life.

Yeah they kinda are... I don't hold that against them, but we won't sit next to the same campfire. I have thought about meeting them for tea sometime somewhere, I think that that is my best bet, we just haven't had the time yet. Thanks for the advice though.

Reluctant Mom wrote:
I do ♥ you a bit ...... okay a lot.

Lol. I enjoy you and your blog too Celeste. Although that could be the 4 glasses of wine from book club talking!

PS: I also like maltesers but do not understand why they bothered to make the "party pack" resealable

PPS: i'm not giving up my smiley faces though

Neil and I have been together for 10 years are unmarried out of choice and have Dylan who is almost 3. I am 37. A grownup. My mother was less than happy that we planned a child out of wedlock.

Again I say this is your life to live now as a family and you get to make the rules.

I have been most honest with my family recently and have told them that they are welcome to speak their mind, but if I don't care for what they say then that may be the last conversation we have. Family or no family. I can do this because they are really far away.

1st Timer wrote: (although this will leave you fuming into a wine bottle quite often I find...)

I do ♥ you a bit ...... okay a lot.

Well, short answer is his family sound like wankers.
Unfortunately though, his family is now your child's family and realistically are going to be in your life going forward. Life will be easier if you can keep your head down and ignore the rude and inconsiderate comments as much as possible (although this will leave you fuming into a wine bottle quite often I find...)

Personally I would find a time that suits you all and meet them somewhere for lunch or tea with baba and your partner. That way you control venue and length of visit. Take some waterless disinfectant hand gel and some wet wipes and hand it to them as they sit down.

You have a very long relationship with them ahead of you - pick your battles.

Hi there... I am a first time mom to 8 week old Amelia... I had an emergency c-section after planning a homebirth. My last couple of months of pregnancy were a total rollercoaster, We went from obgyn to homebirth to emergency c-section. I had quite a difficult time coming to terms with what happened, and had trouble breastfeeding all thanks to a nurse's bad advise. I would like to help other moms going through similar difficulties.