Re: New Mommies to be May, June & July 2011

MsDe I see you posted while I was writing my long post... Glad you are feeling better today and not in jail I had visions of another Mrs Bobbit.. Men

I also have fears of losing all dignity and screaming like a stuck pig while my body is exposed to all and sundry (vjj, wobbly bits, cellulite and all) But mostly I'm scared of how I'm going to cope with the pain. That's why I'm going to read the Hypnobirthing book.

Esmari, i keep thinking, here i am complaining about having to go for checkups every 2 weeks when there are people who are just now praying for a healthy baby. I'm really praying that it is just a scare.

I am with those that want ML to start! TaNasha I hate to admit it, but I'm not doing the pregnancy thing well. I really want to, but I'm battling with everything. I don't want to sound ungrateful for my baby, but maybe my body is battling because I'm not in my twenties. I dunno But I shall persevere, it would just be nice to be on ML and be able to lie down on my side and rest by back and coccyx.
They are striking near my office today (it's all over the news this morning) and I was hoping I wouldn't be able to get to work! But, sigh, here I am. I REALLY could have done with a day off. I wanted to take the 26, 28 and 29 April leave, but the owner of the company won't let me. He is going to be away and he won't let me be away at the same time as him - someone has to be here to run things.

Well I got started on my UIF forms. They aren't as bad at they look! I can't go back and check but someone responded here with a breakdown of all the forms and what you need etc and you did it very well - thanks!

Esmari my heart goes out to your SIL. I read her post and she is very calm. Flip! Two weeks is a loooooong time to wait for her next scan. (((((hugs to her)))))
LOL at not getting a pic from a Gov scan. I didn't get a pic from my private gynae scan yesterday!
My heart stopped when he spent a lot of time going over and over the baby's head and brain. I actually glanced at his face to see if I could see any change in expression there, but he looked calm. He just said that the head is measuring nearly 30 weeks (I'm 27 weeks) because the baby is lying breech and the head is closer to the scanner than the rest of his body.

I'm going to buy a Hypnobirthing book from Nefertiti. So let's see how I can get my mind around pushing this big boy out...

I registered online with Baby and Company and Reggies yesterday so that I can do some online shopping, but I was very disappointed as to the variety in the range available. I'm also going to sign up with Pick n Pay online shopping so that I can do any necessary shopping from home after the baby is born. My mother doesn't drive anymore so I do all the shopping for her/us as well as for BF.

MsDee I spent a lot of time thinking about your DH's comments. Very inconsiderate of him, but maybe he isn't coping with the thought of becoming a father? What I mean is that a lot of men have anxiety and fears about being a father and us women never give their fears etc a second thought. BF doesn't pull the punches when he says something and boy oh boy does he hurt me. Maybe your DH is worried about you giving birth? Some men are really worried about their beloved wives going through the birth experience and also how they are going to be a support to you during the birth. I don't know, just my 2c worth. Hugs to you hun. I promise you I know how much words coming from your dear love can hurt. Hope you are feeling better today. Basically men just don't think before they say things... I get told that I am sooooo overweight and that BF doesn't like overweight ladies and that he won't be able to stay with me if I don't lose the baby weight. I also get angry at him - what my body is doing and going through right now is totally out of my control and for it to be held against me is not fair at all. I'm carrying his child!

Yep AHA - I love your new pic

Hi to everyone else! Mwah

MsDee, I dont think she wanted to tell my sil alone. Her dh is away on business, and is only back this weekend. I watched the video on the scan, and she focussed a lot on the head. And there was something in the head that she measured. I am just praying that her baba is ok, and that this doc is just xtra carefull or something.

Morning.

So i managed to calm down, hence i'm not in jail

Last night he brought more material on the issue. I guess it's my body and i get to decide. But he really does seem scared that something will go wrong!

I have a scan later today. I think i'll just discuss the whole thing with my gynae today, make my decision and put it to rest. If i still can't decide, i'll let my LO decide how he wants to come into this world. Unfortunately, this is one of those things that are based on emotions, i've googled and talked to my friends and sister and the one thing i came to realise is it's a very personal and emotional issue.

Solo, I've read that you are supposed to gain the most weight during your 2nd trimester. It was certainly true with me. Still sitting at the 10 kgs overall.

TaNasha, if i could afford it i also would start my martenity leave now! I get 4 months paid and I can take 2 extra months but would have to claim from UIF. Maybe i'd think about it if it wasn't for the paper work.

Rakker, you're little girl is really tall. Who does she take after? I still say she should be a model or a dancer

BettyF, i also have my appt later today! You are really so close, only 3 weeks? I think i'll be freaking out at that point.

AHA? LOL! I have this picture of a bunch of people looking down there incl hubby, me screaming and not covered from the waist down & i just want to dig a hole and hide!

Esmari, I am saddenest by your SIL's story, i can't even think of what to say. She and her husband sound like very strong people. I would not be able to go 2w without even a clue of what is happening. The least the gynae could have done was at least tell them what she suspects or sees so they start preparing.

Good morning.

Coffee in. Check
Bedding in the machine. Check
Awake. Whats that?

Anyhow. Don't know if you saw post from my sil about fetal development? She is the one with the 5% chance of trisomie 18. Anyway, yesterday at her 20w scan the doc said she wants to see her again in 2w time, and her husband must come with. Cause she saw a couple of things on the scan she wants to recheck. And when she asked if something is wrong, she answered its too soon to tell, and she wants to check in 2w.
She looks so calm, I would have freaked.

One more sleep till my scan - no pic though. Darn government!

MsDee – so good to hear I’m not the only women out there that doesn’t like shopping! Feel like giving you a hug right now. And LOL! but some of the stuff I bought for my hospital bag is also still in their shopping bags. (yeah! Solo feels the same about shopping!)
Regarding the birthing options – your sister was right it’s not dignified. (I can only speak the c-sec experience). But you know what, it somehow is not so bad when you go through it – because you get your little angel – and that is all that matters. Just hang up your dignity at the door and take it again when you leave. It will all be okay.
LOL! men can be real idiots at times – and they have a way of saying the wrong things at the wrong times.

Rakker – it will be seriously interesting to see the different personalities. We will just have to cope.
Solo - I must agree with Rakker, I wouldn’t’ have minded if my DH actually have supported giving natural birth. But he is so pro c-sec. but in the end it’s you choice – and only yours, well baby has some say in it
And don’t stress about the weight to much, just enjoy the pregnancy, you can worry about the weight again after baby is born.

Thanks TaNasha! I’m so with you on starting ML already – just one more month for me..

BettyF – enjoy the scan today. And not long to go! Any day now.

AFM – I’m tired, feel drained just want to sleep the whole time, but can’t. walking is becoming awkward – everything is sore and stretching. Only about 7 weeks to go…
Hope you all have a great day!