Multiple Mommies

Hi hapi, i'm mom to 14w old twin girls. I have a domestic lady 3 times a week. The rest of the time i'm able to manage everything on my own c a lot of help and support from my dh. I have really easy babies most of the time, so i reckon its baby dependant. I just take it one d at a time!

Hi there mommies

Quick question: do all of you have full time help ? or are you managing on your own. My biggest concern is espcially at new born stage.

many thanx.

I consider you very lucky as opposed to abnormal

I will try not to stress too much, I have actually seen people carrying twins not gain that much as well.

i try to make healthy choices but somehow i still worry.

Hapi- I am very abnormal, I loose weight wehn preggers LOL

With the twins I was 4kg over starting weight when I was booked into hospital for the birth and my boys weighed nearly that in total.

Try not to stress too much over what you read. I remember my first pregnancy I cried so hard when I saw a + HPT because I 'knew' it meant I would get huge but I didn't.

Try to look at eating a GL or low GI diet, it should stop you gaining too much weight but also help avoid things like Gestational diabeties.

A lot of women put on 20+kg for 1 baby but they loose it quick enough.

BF will help but it's tough with twins, I managed to express til 6w but then life was just too hectic. But twins keep you on your feet so the calories get burnt off easily!

Hi there Mommies

Vix, I read the article on living and loving - very touching.


Did any of you mommies have abnormal weight gain during your pregnancies ? Most articles that I read indicate that one should expect double the weight gain if you are carrying more than one.

I know weight gain should be the last thing I worry about, but unfortunately I do. Im not a thin girl and really hope that I do not gain that much weight.

I also know that everyone is different but would really love to hear your experiences.

tx.

thanx for that Vix.

i personally think that it will be very emotionally taxing on me and dont think I would be doing justice to the child.

My father is a health Inspector by profession and when we were still in primary school he would take us to his site visits and sometimes drop us off at a home for children with downs. They are happy and lovely kids but i really saw how demanding their needs are.

thanx for the congrats, I just hope they are healthy.

Hapi- it's a very sensitive subject but here's why i wouldn't keep a downs baby:

I used to work in a special needs school back in England, the kids are amazing, they truely are such wonderful happy little beings BUT a lot of the time their 'normal' siblings suffer a huge lack of attention and in many cases become quite rebellious, some even hypocondriacts because they see the Drs give the downs child so much attention.

I have a 2 year old son and i know having a downs sibling would defer too much attention from him. To tell you the truth having twins is also deferring too much attention but that will change in a few months when the twins are bigger and i have more time for him. With a Downs child the time consuming attention needed stays for almost all of their life.

Same thing with if one twin was downs and one not.

sounds selfish but actually i view it as selfless, I wouldn't keep a downs child for my own wants if it was going to have a negative effect on my son.

There is an article in this months L&L with a mother who gave birth to twins and one has downs. She's coping but she certainly hasn't taken it lightly and the 'normal' child will likely have to attend therapy to ensure he doesn't get negative feelings towards the attention his sister receives. the mother is also talking about taking therapy sometime too.

it definitely can be done but i feel you need to be very pro active in your actions for it to work well for every family member. It's very time consuming and can become very costly too. I take my hat off to anyone who does it but i know I just wouldn't be able to cope.

OH BTW CONGRATS ON FINDING OUT THE SEXES, 2 GIRLS!!!!! I'm jealous, i have 3 boys