Any women here that are rape survivors?

Hi Fancyface!

I am not a rape victim, but we hve something else in common...I also live in Arboretum.

I love sex. An old man taught me a lot and i went on a sex rampage and eventually got tired of it and decided to settle down and get married. IM not proud of the way i dealt with the situation but thats what i did. i used men and threw them out for 6 years. my only problem as such is that i am very dry and its been like that since i gave birth.

fawaway@I am thankfull for your responds, and very glad to hear that you have moved on like myself, but I would like to know something, as I don't think about it 24/7 anymore either but although I have had 2kids since and are pregnant with my 4th baby...

Do you enjoy sex? And how? coz that is a stumbleling block for me, I can not enjoy it, to me it's so bad that I have to take an shower straight after and I get sick to my stomach....although I do not keep it from my husband. I still hate sex.

im a rape survivor as well. i was date raped on the15 november 2003 and it took me 6 years to come to terms with it. im now happily married with one son. the rape is not something i think about much any morE or talk about.

That's correct I'm a rape survivor don't like to see myself as a "victim"... let me tell you my story...

It happened on the 18th Feb 2003, so it give's you 2mths before my daughter and myself turned 3 and 23, we were going to go to the shop and then stop at the park to swing a bit, maybe take a stroll to the beach.

As we walked out of the flat my cell ran, I remember this conversation very well as it was a woman from the cancer sosiaty and I wanted a policy, I asked her to pls phone me the next morning when I have all the banking details etc with me, and explained to her that I'm on my way to the beach and don't like talking on my cell while outdoors. we said our goodbye's and by this time I just crossed the road and where passing another unit of flats, as I went down to put the phone in the bag that my daughter wanted to carry the man grabbed me from behind.....when you realize what is going on you have no voice you have only numness... So from there it is a blank to me here and there I can remember flashes of what happened...

after the rape I stood up I remember asking him if i can have my pants back and he threw it in my face. now as soon as I realized that this was going to get ugly I asked my daughter to come lie down on my shoulder and she did, she kept asking me why this was happening and why he wanted to kill us, and I calmly explained to her that there are men and women of all races who are really sick ppl and they do stuff to ppl so that they can feel better, I stood up after that rape and walked the main road from meer en see to arboretum wich is something like 7km carring my child infront of my upper body as I had nothing on.

this took place around 14h20 I got to my sister just after three, and then went to hospital, it was such a dramatic day for my family and some of my friends, but at 11:45 that night the hospital and police was done and I got to go home, truth be told I was a total mess for atleast 6mths, but if it wasn't for my daughter who came to me one morning and asked me "mommy when will you be better again, when can we play again and when will you love me again?" if it wasn't for that sentance that came out of my little girls mouth tears streaming down her face....I WOULDN"T HAVE STOOD UP AGAIN...so strenght wasn't within me but the power of recovering was held within a little 3yr olds words.

I love my kids and they make my days count. Coz without Ruby my stone, the rock in my household, and without Cody the one who makes me smile everyday with all the strange things he says, and little hailey with her glittery eyes and hugs and kisses, my life will be an empty black whole...

No matter what happens in your life, there is always a way to face it, to get up and to life as if there will be no 2morrow...

And please don't feel sorry for me, as I am only one out of a mil women. and I'm no stronger than any of you or better coz of what happened to me, without God and my loved once I'm ash, hope you all have a great day and I hope this power's up your day with I CAN DO ANYTHING I PUT MY MIND TO...

FF

klk@ thank you for the response...

I had a little group of woman and girls who went threw it and we use to stay in contact and that helped alot with the exceptance that you are not alone,most of my friends passed away of HIV and there was a little girl of 11yrs who got raped the same day as me but she had to take it from five grown men, they stabed her 19times, she took her own life 6months after.

it's amazing how many women there are but do not come out and talk about it.... I want you all to have a chat to me, together we are stronger than standing alone.

I'm here if anyone needs to speak. I would like to form a new support group here on this blog for others like me

I am not a rape victim but i must say that i admire and respect all you ladies that have gone through such a horrific experience and have managed to come out on top.