Feb-May 2011 Mommies

Hi Fellow Mommies to Be

Sorry to barge in.

I am looking for Maryke's number as I need to calm my silly mind and have reassurance that we are in fact having a LB (jip, being pregnant kind of makes you crazy...)

Where is she based again? I am in Pretoria, but I want a quick and cheap scan as I can't waste any money feeding my insecurity

Appreciate your help guys!

PS: Not going to my gynae, as I am totally second guessing him for no reason. He was 100% sure at 18 weeks it is a LB. Google confirmed this aswell (compared my poor scan pics to other unknown baby boys at 18 weeks)

Hi ladies

EmsMom, dont think I need a drip (yet...). my tummy however looks a lot smaller I was enjoying my boepie!

as for my friend. I sent the email. This is what I said; let me know what you ladies think:

Hi Nicki

I am Laura's friend Meagan. I am emailing you as I am growing more and more concerned daily about Laura's well-being and happiness and her decision to marry Greg.

I am aware she has informed you of a few events where Greg has been drunk, upset her and said mean things. But I do not think she is open enough to tell you everything, and I feel responsible to tell you a few things she has told me. I am only telling you these things, because I worry Laura is making a huge mistake and will regret her decision to marry Greg in a couple of years.

Laura has explained to me that she has to stay with Greg as if she breaks up with him, there is no guarentee she'll ever met another guy. She told me she would rather be treated a bit badly and be unhappy, than be alone and never get the chance to have children. This really saddens me, as she shouldn't be settling for second best. Greg also informed her over the weekend that he actually decided he doesnt want to have children - and I know a life without children for Laura, would be a very empty and unfulfilled life. She did tell me that if she didnt have children, she would be miserable.

Another thing she has told me a couple of times now, after Greg and her have fought, is that she really would leave, but due to the fact that she has paid deposits for the wedding already, she feels like she has to stay. She feels she cant waste that money now. I have explained to her that I am sure your father would be happy to throw that money away if it meant she was making the right choices in life.

I am not sure how you feel about Greg, but I know a few of us (Laura's friends) are not big fans of him. He doesnt treat Laura with great respect and Laura often feels she has to choose between him and her family - another thing she shouldn't have to do.

I am not exactly sure what to do, or what you should do. But I just cant sit here anymore and watch her getting hurt over and over again, disrespected and desperate. I am sure she will be very angry with me for sending this email to you, and if our friendship is to end over this, I just hope she can forgive me one day when she realises I was just looking out for her, as friends should do. I am not sure if we should all have a meeting together (us and the family) or if you want to approach this on your own with your dad?

My husband told me I shouldn't get involved. But how can I just watch my friend ruin her life? When I immigrate, who will she turn to when he's upset her again?? She is going to be so unhappy and I cant bear to think of her life if she goes ahead with this wedding.

I also think when you do approach her about this, she will down play it and say there is nothing wrong. I think Laura is emotionally unstable at the moment with regards to making such a commitment such as marriage. I honestly feel she is just getting married because her life plan was to have children by 24 years old and now all her friends are married and getting pregnant and she feels left out. I just wish she had enough courage and self respect to realise she deserves more.

Please let me know what you think of this situation and if there is anything I can do to help further.

Meagan

Afternoon my fellow preggy faries!
I hope you have all had a good day.

Meags, really hope you are feeling better, just keep the fluid intake up and worse comes to worse ask for a drip to be put in just for safety.
About your friend, I would really bring her family into this - explain that you hate doing it but feel something needs to be done. As hard as it is, she might hate you for a while, but rather that then her spend her life in misery.

Misty if it goes on for another day please call her doc, the food is not that important, but liquids are! Stay strong and healthy!

Today I have been pumped full of happy hormones Not even the raining weather is getting me down. Then my dad took me out for Sushi and bought me a kilo of calamari, cause he knows I've been craving it - so making calamari past tonight

I did so much "shopping" online today, need to go over the stuff with DH tonight and decide what we are actualy going to get, but its all stuff from a site called "Think Geek" and suits our little family perfectly. A lot of people will NEVER get the references but still

Haha Kimika I hate it when that happens!!!!
So I dont know if I ate something bad or have a bug. I thought I was feeling better so ate some lunch and an hour later I'm back on the loo Just trying to stay hydrated as the diarhoea is seriously watery (sorry TMI!!)

I did try call the sister at the gynae to ask her if there's anything I should do but she wasnt in. so guess I'll just continue with fluids!

Kaylae, I agree. I cant just sit here and do nothing. Although I feel so bad for getting her sister involved and almost 'breaking the trust', I just care too much to let her go through with this without having proper support. Even if she does go through with it, at least she knows she can now turn to family for support...

I dunno if you ladies heard about Simone K who has 5 kids and is in a lot of financial trouble?? I did email her to see what help she needs but she says she has enough?!

Hi girls.. lol.. still cant remember what it was that I wanted to say yesterday!

Joli, I tagged you in the mexican bola comp.. hopefully we will win something as we both are equally seriously broke.. (didnt want to say that on the wall ) Oh and the desperately thing was a typo but then I thought maybe it will get some attention and left it like it is.. FX

Meags, hows your tummy today?? Still running? Ive been following the Simone story and hope they are doing ok.. shame it could really also be very tough for her to put her situation out there!!

Oo cant believe you sent the mail!! I always have a giggle at you.. your such a brave women.. good to have you on our side hey But you said all in the mail perfectly and you really did the best you can to help your friend when she cant help herself anymore. Let us know what the outcome of the situation is!

Aspoestertjie, hehe.. your just as crazy as I am!!! whoohoo!! Im not alone Maryke's nr: 0828743841 Try get an appointment over the weekend or any time not peak traffic and youll be fine from pta. We drove 25mins from Midrand on Sat morn. And she will def ease your mind! Just tell her you want to determine gender. Good luck!

How is everyone else doing?????

Meags I think you must tell her sister and see if nothing good will come out of it.It is sad to just sit back and let our loved ones sell their souls to the devil in fear of being single.Being single doesn't mean being lonely.She has to rid herself of this man if she knows what's good cause this type of abuse will continue the rest of her life and she will be miserable end up in a divorce cource.I always say love yourself first before someone can love you in return and it seems this man has lots of hatred and feel good on people's tears.

There is life after that white beautiful wedding and what life will it be for your friend.Talk to her ask her such questions and do not expect an answer immediately let her sleep through it and maybe she will see the bigger picture.It is high time we women stand together and say no to any kind of abuse.It is up to her to listen to you and her family but intervene as one day her life might haunt you

Haha Kimika I was also thinking that you ladies must be wondering why I have so many dilemmas!!!

I have been standing by her for 2 years now...listening to her, supporting her, giving advice (whether she takes it or not) but she has become so emotionally unstable that I feel she actually isnt stable enough to make such a major decision!
Also, she only tells me of these problems and I feel if I dont do something about it, she is just going to go through with it without having the proper support she needs from her family