TTC 2012 Group Year of the ball, Year of the bump

Thanks lailek and chriss.. Gyne would only want me to go for bloods around 14dpo!! The nly prob is tue I go home and then wed (14dpo) I would have to drive again 45min into town and being month end I dnt know if I would be able to go!!

Laliek I agree, they do mature later but really, he is driving me mad (and STILL sleeping can you believe...)
We moved in with each other after dating for 9 months and then lived together 2 years before getting married. so 2y9 months of dating, then got married. been together now 3y1 month.

I never thought I'd marry someone until we'd been dating for at least 4 years. but everything seemed so right?

I dont mind that he parties and gets drunk. really I dont. I still enjoy the odd party myself.

But what frustrates me to no end is the selfishness!!!!! it's all about him, his needs, his wants, how he feels etc etc.
I feel if I tell him at midnight that I'm tired and want to leave soon, we can negotiate and say to leave at 1 or 1:30. but there is no negotiation with him.
he thinks if I want to leave, I should just go and he can get a taxi. we are married now!! surely that's not how it works anymore??
or am I just really living in an imaginary fairytale world?

I must just say in his defense, we hardly go out anymore. I honestly dont even know when we last had a really late night out with his friends. maybe for our bachelor and bachelorette party in January?
so it is not happening all the time...but for me, I still think a relationship is about compromise and not just leaving the other person behind

Hi ladies, hope you are all doing well!!

i am feeling alot better, not 100%, but I will get there.

H-buzz, did gynae say when you can do bloods (if they mentioned it?)

Glad to hear you had a wnderful birthday Hayley, I could do with a slow cooker too, especially with the up and coming trio, lol.

Andy, glad you are a bit better and out of hospital!

Kinika, have I said congrats yet? not sure? if not, I wish you such a wonderful pregnancy! May it be healthy and happy with no humps and bumps except for one large one (your tummy)

Meags, where are you having the meet? I might be able to go. So sorry about what you are dealing with at home, it can be very frustrating, its amazing how different men are to woman.

Everyone else that i have not mentioned, hello, hope u are all doing well!!

Hi girls!

Firstly - Hayley - happy birthday for yesterday!! Sorry it's so late hun but I hope you have many blessed more

H-buzz - holding thumbs for you hun! I would say wait until 14dpo, if a little baba implanted it can happen anywhere from 7-12dpo, 10 being norm but everyone is different. So just for safety and that they can pick up a nice count! But it's up to you, if you feel you want to then go!

Meags - so sorry for your frustration. I think men in general just mature later than women If I may ask, how long have you been together before you got married? I really hope you guys work things out, chat to DH when he's awake and sober, it's always better when you both calmed down a bit. But if you need to vent - go ahead, that's why we're all here!

To everyone else - halllooo!

AFM: Still have a week of BCP pills to take and then hopefully AF will show her face AGAIN around Saturday, then on cd3 should go back to FS. Not fun, as this past AF was sooo heavy and painful and now I have to get it again in a weeks time - urggghhh horrible! BUT, I guess it's all worth it in the end and to be honest, I'll go through this all 20 times if I can if it means we'll be blessed with a baby

Oh, I'm keen for the meeting 10 July! I just have a facial that morning with my sister but should be done around 11h00 so I'll be very excited to meet you all!

Forgot to write hayley ur symptoms sound very similar to mines,lower back pain,tiredness, tender boobs.. I wanna find out girls I'm 10dpo according to the ovidrol shot.. I am gng back home on tue morning,should be 12dpo on mon.. Do I go for bloods on mon?? So I can start taking prog??

Meags--- it really is not a nice situation to be in.. I do think u deff need to re-evaluate this releationship.. I can imagine ur anger and frustration, and hope u guys work things out.

Hi Ladies

Hayley I will know next week when I am going to France. But so far it's only you and me that want to meet!!

LADIES DO YOU WANT TO MEET SATURDAY 10 JULY??
(JOBURG)

ok maybe that'll get everyone's attention

As for me...gosh where do I start...
Sometimes I am so mad with DH and I wonder why I am wasting my time with such an immature BOY. Am I alone in feeling like this???

Last night we went to dinner with my friends who I have not seen for a year. So there was LOTS to catch up on.

Then we finished at 10:30 and had to go out with his friends for a farewell. I am always the F**KING designated driver. He has never ever done it for me so I can drink and have fun. His excuse is always that we can get a taxi. Yes this is true. But I hate leaving my car somewhere and then having the pain of going to collect it the following day.

Anyway. so we go to the farewell and by now everyone is drunk and falling all over the place. Now this was my idea of fun 3 years ago but I have since matured. I guess if I was drunk, it could of been more enjoyable. So DH got set straight into the booze to catch up and was talking with everyone (they are ALL french) and I was speaking to the people I know but by 12 I was getting tired/bored and notified him. Anyway, I kept giving him reminders over the next hour that I wanted to leave. At 1:30am he says "just drink, we can get a taxi"
Now seriously. What is the point of me only starting to drink at 1:30am???????

ANYWAY (sorry I know this is a long story but I need to vent before I kill him once he wakes up...) we left at 2:30am. I was irritable cos I was tired, he was drunk and irritating me.
I kept saying I don't enjoy sitting around waiting for him to be ready to leave, relationships are about compromise, he is selfish etc etc etc. his response?? "Well just let me go out without you and then you don't have to sit around waiting to drive me home"
I was so angry!!! It just seems his response to everything is to allow him to go alone. It's like he almost doesnt want me there? When I say this, he disagrees and says he is trying to make me happy?!

anyway. I said when I am pregnant, he will also just send me home alone or when we have a child that is being babysat, he'll tell me to go home and he'll get a taxi. and his response "No, because that's different and if you're pregnant what if something happens?"

Ladies, I honestly feel like he doesnt love me fully! I know this sounds ridiculous, but he says generally parents love their kids more than they love their partners.
I am a firm believer that husband and wife should love each other fully in order to love a child properly...

Sorry for the LONG post...I am hurting and confused and just feel like giving up on this relationship. I feel like he is not ready to actually be married and realise it's not about "I" it's about "WE"