Betrayal of trust

I read this and my initial response was "what the fuck!"

Oh my heavens, I would have shat myself as you no doubt did. The idea of someone breast feeding my child without my consent would never have entered my mind as something to have had to say: "Oh listen, when I am at work, do not breast feed my child, okay?"

Absolutely flabbergasted ....

Question: What does your private doctor say?

My instinctive response is have baby tested, then have retroviral drugs taken in the event that there might have been exposure, as the virus can lie dormant and not be "revealed" in initial screening.

And yes have some counselling so that you do not beat yourself up about this for all of time.

I really do not think anyone would have seen this one coming ....really, no one.

<or is this more common than I am assuming...>

Tinti - I am totally beyond words on this one.

Oh no Tinti ! I cant imagin how betrayed and invaded you must feel!Good on you for acting so logically and rationally because I think I would've killedher on the spot. Maybe you need to start looking at all the creches in your area and get recommendations from friends and family in the area as to where they all send their kids and whether they are happy there . I am not the most pro creche person you will ever meet but I think that maybe there is more control over such abuse ( if we can call it that) at a creche as there are more kids and more teachers around so if something like that is going on I think they would be quicker to pick it up as our nannies obviously have the privacy and time during the day when we are away to do what they want and at creche obviously that isn't the case. I hope you come to the right decision for you and your family and that you can find something that will give you peace of mind.

Oh my goodness. That is shocking.

Fristly you handled the situation perfectly. You got her tested and you sent her packing.

I have no idea how prevalent this is to be honest. Did she say why she was doing it???

If you are seriously upset by this which it sounds like you are, may I suggest that you contact lifeline and they will provide you with a free trauma councellor. The earlier you chat to someone the better off you will be.

i feel so betrayed because i trusted my nanny with my kids LB(2.7yrs) and LG(7months), last week i found her Breast feeding my LG and i still feel traumatised by the thought that she might have invected my LG with HIV, of course i took LG for HIV testing the same day and gave my nanny an hour to get out of my house but i feel like i will never be able to trust anada nanny with my kids again. i dont even trust creche teachers at this stage but what can i do because i have to work and my job has alot of travelling involved. i feel so stressed and depressed right now. please give me an advice on what i can do from this point